Can you wish for true happiness?

Question

casting aspersions aside, let us believe wishes can come true. what i wonder is this, can you wish for true happiness because surely to achieve and understand true happiness we have to feel sadness aswell therefore this wish is paradoxical surely?

Answer 1

You can give your life up to God and find true happiness, through your relationship with Him.

This is the only way I know for 'true' success.

I have searched for many years, through much pain and have finally come up as a 'winner'! :D

Answer 2

life is what you make it

Answer 3

Wish for true happiness as much as you like, for as regular as you like. The hard part to understand is the amount of work that is involved. Happiness is a relation of love, and a verb and a noun.  Without love no happiness.  Without happiness no love.

Peace.

Answer 4

No, never.......!

Answer 5

I agree that to appreciate the finer things in life, you must have suffered or gone without. The "born with a silver spoon" brigade do not truly appreciate their wealth, they simply expect to have things that others will never get the chance to have.

I think that you would be better asking if it is possible to achieve "enlightenment" in the Gautama sense. The Buddha realised a state of enlightenment by looking within, and accepting that to be truly content one must lose the ego, the self, all needs and desires, and become one with the "universal".

Happiness/ contentment is to have all that you need, and an absence of fear and worry. This can be achieved by changing oneself to accept what is, rather than wishing, wanting, and dreaming of what you do not have.

All the best.

Answer 6

P.51 - §13 9. Is pleasure--the satisfaction of happiness--desirable? Then must man live in a world where the alternative of pain and the likelihood of suffering are ever-present experiential possibilities.

Wishing as self desire when coupled with action will bare fruit. On the other hand the apparent cruelty of a perverse fate that heaps tribulation upon some suffering person may in reality be the tempering fire that is transmuting the soft iron of immature personality into the tempered steel of real character.

Answer 7

Well havent you felt sadness before now?  How old are you?  Me, I have felt sadness before so I would notice the happier times.   Lucky you!

Answer 8

Well, I would say you can wish for true happiness. I mean, why not ? Surely we all want happiness. But I believe that wishing for happiness isn't going to do any good. You have to do something to get happiness. It has to be earned. I believe that 'true' happines comes from within. It is not caused by external factors which only give short-lived happiness. True happiness is acheived when one is at peace with oneself (one's self). Meditation is the key, I believe. I have heard that happiness and suffering are like the tail-end and the head-end respectively of a serpeant. If you keep playing with the tail-end (happiness) then sooner or later the head-end will come around and sting you (suffering).  So the idea is not to cling to happiness. Watch it arise within you, be aware of its presence and let it go. But look what is happening to the world today !! People are craving for happines. All their wordly endeavours have happiness as the aim. They are obsessed with the idea of happiness but they are going about it the wrong way. They are looking for happiness from outside whereas true happiness can only come from within, from inside. You must understand this before you can ever dream of true happiness. You must first conquer your mind, regain control, be the true master that you are meant to be, and true happiness will be yours. God bless.

Answer 9

You had better not. Where there is happiness, unhappiness is sure to follow. The choice is between happinness and unhappiness both and neither at all. But few are willing to forgo the search for happiness, viewing the absence of it as unhappiness.

Answer 10

you can wish for anything you want. no guarantee it's going to come true

Answer 11

Its a myth that you have to live the negative to feel the positive. Its not that living negative does not have its place but it is just not necessary. So its not necessary to be sad to understand what happiness is. In fact there is no limit to the happiness that can be achieved. NO LIMITS. So that means that if you remember the happiest moment of your life then there can be someone so much more happier than you that he/she may look at you and say... "Uhm well thats sad". (But the fact is if someone is so much happy then he/she would not be able to say that because he/she would never even notice the lower level of happiness that you are at).

You do not have to fall ill to understand what is health. You dont have to go to war to understand what is peace. You dont have to get hurt (physically/emotionally) to understand what it is like to not to get hurt. You dont need to hate anyone to understand what is love. You do not have to die to understand what living is all about.

You can be healthy and just get healthier. You can live with peace and become more peaceful. You can have love and just take it to deeper levels. You can live and understand more and more what it is all about. And there is no wish of yours that cannot come true.

So instead of living the sad to understand the happiness, you can live happiness and go to the next level of happiness and then the next level and then the next level. There is no end to it.

Now... this is a wonderful world. :-)

Answer 12

I don't think that would be really true happiness then... because there wouldn't be a sense of achievement! =P

Answer 13

Presumeably to wish for happiness you would have had to have suffered sadness already, otherwise why would you need the wish?

Answer 14

Happiness is an emotion. Just as you say; sadness is normal, but so is peace, anger and fear. ON top of that there are many secondary emotions. A healthy person feels the full range of their emotions and also have the ability to put them aside. Happiness is not enduring it is not meant to be. Every emotion we have is meant to come and pass.

Being stuck in any emotion can be a cause for concern.

Answer 15

i think one can aspire for moments of true happiness, of course they could be separated by moments of sadness.

For me, true happiness would be to have a happy family,i know that it's a clichè, but i don't care. i would like to be sitting in the kitchen table and having breakfast with my husband and kids, everyone happy and smiling. that moment would be true happiness and i would keep that moment for the bad times, to help me go thru with them.