Can your fiance judge you on your past as far as who and how many guys you dated after 6 years and a child

Question

OK so i have had way more relationships than my fiance because he was locked up for most of his good years and he try to make me feel like i am out there like i am a w***e because i have had other partners hes had like 2 other besides me that obviously didn't last but is it that serious to bring up my past in the present relationship after 6 years?

Answer 1

Try not to worry about this. It's very common and it shouldn't stop you both being happy. Men are almost always jealous of past lovers until they find out more. As a man, once I got a reasonable answer to the 'Why did it end?' question, my partner kept me amused in bed with things she'd learned from her previous partners (most of which she wouldn't have discovered on her own). We went on from there without a thought about the past. I even met one of them and because I knew we had a better relationship than they had had together, I was happy to talk with him. I didn't like him much but I think it was because I don't like most men anyway. If you like him, make him like you because you are you. Don't try to be someone who you think he would like if it's too different and needs loads of effort - you'll never keep it up and you'll resent it more and more. BTW regarding your child, be wary of letting them get too friendly if you aren't sure the relationship will last. It will really upset them both if you break.  

Answer 2

he can judge you but that doesnt make it right...if hes making you feel like a w*ore then why are you with him??

its not your fault he was behind bars...tell him if he wants to b with you to get over it...

and dont let him badmouth your child...leave before he does damage to your child if he doesnt stop..

Answer 3

tell him that only r****d persons bother / care about past relationships..that already happened ....and that what he should focus

on is ...the moment "you two" started going out and getting to meet and

like each other up till now  "the present"...he should ( all intelligent persons) should count from

moment each other met to present....the rest it is just a waste of energy,

and brings negativity onto all and any relation whenever dug into it

Answer 4

no, it's really none of his business what you did before you got together with him.  Besides, he was incarcerated, I can't believe he has the nerve to judge you.

Answer 5

Listen..... first off >>what are you doing being engaged to a guy who has been locked up for most of his good years? Are you just asking for trouble?? Anyway, NO it is no ones buisness who you have been with before them,. Does this guy think you didn't have a life before he came along?? PLEASE>>> This guy does not sound like he's mentally stable. He sounds to me like some sort of control freak. If I were you I would run for the hills and not look back. Unless you get off on this tough guy image. And if you do get off on that you need to grow up and realize your only asking for trouble. And if you stay in this relationship, your only going to get trouble. I've been where you are at one time. This guy I dated asked me the same question one time. And when I answered him honestly, he didn't like my answer. He was a control freal too. So my advice to you is to drop this guy like a hot potatoe!!!!!!!   If he can't handle the answer you gave him, then maybe he shouldn't ask the question.