Can your mom be your matron of honor and have a maid of honor too? Would that be bad to have your mom in it?

Question

Is it ok for her to wear the same dresses as the others?

Answer 1

There is only one maid/matron of honor.  

I would say no---the mother of the bride is already in a position of importance at a wedding.

Answer 2

Check out the wedding etiquette websites.

Answer 3

Its your wedding and your day. You can do anything you want.

It would be unusual, but nothing wrong with that.  

Answer 4

Traditionally the maid of honor is just that, a maiden.  She is there to fill in for the bride if she cannot complete her commitment.  That means the groom would be marrying his potential mother in-law.  Not a good idea.

Answer 5

While as the bride, it's your day and you can do what you want, I think it would be a little strange to have your mom as the matron of honor.  As Holly said, your Mom already has a special place of honor - she's the mother of the bride.  And while she's not part of the wedding party, I don't think wearing an identical dress as the bridesmaids is a good idea, maybe she can wear a dress that's the same style or similar style, but in a different color.  Or in one of the wedding colors (most people choose a couple colors for their wedding), but not the exact dress as what the bridesmaids are wearing.