Cant be bothered looking for a girl friend.....?

Question

Yeah thats pretty much it hey. Yeah and im not "ghey" either

Ive had a few girlfriends but its always ended pretty quick because i just dont seem to care enough, dont get me wrong i want to care and be happy in a relationship.

Ive always been the one to end it even when its all going good just because i get fed up and cant be stuffed anymore. Hurting people in the process.... yeah pretty slack i know.

You know that time in a relationship where the honey moon period is just about to finish thats when "im out". Ive never cheated and i only want one girl just for me....im not the sorda guy that shops around....if you know what i mean.

Now when girls seem interested in me i just cant be bothered showing them any reaction and force myself to act differently so they will go away.

Is there something wrong with me.....This aint normal eh

Thanks

Answer 1

No, nothings wrong with you. I think you are as normal as every guy out there, but YOU are now actually thinking about how you may be hurting these women, which most guys don't care that far ahead. So you have a conscious! Hooray!

You have just not found the one that makes you want to never leave her yet. It will come. But I do suggest that going into any of these little romances, that you tell these lady's up front that you don't want to get serious. If it happens it does, but your just wanting to date and have a good friend/companionship right now and your telling them this up front so you don't hurt her later down the road. If she cant continue to see you, respect that. If she does continue, remind her, often, so she respects your feelings. This way, your being honest, up front, and so it should not leave you feeling guilty later, because you were, in fact, honest.

One day, it will happen for you. You will not mean to fall in love, but you will realize that you did.  

Answer 2

No theres nothing wrong with you :) You just havent found "the one" yet, and you're not the type to string girls along when you just dont feel attracted or bothered with them any more. xD Im the same way, really with guys.

Cant work out if i like them or not because i just cant be bothered and would rather be with friends then making the effort with people i cant see myself being married to =P When you find the right one it should be different, and even if you dont who needs a relationship to succeed in life?  

Answer 3

I know how that feels.

One day, when you are not looking, a girl will come in to your life and Knock Your Socks Off.

You won't be able to resist. Believe me, it has happened to me!

Enjoy your life.

Answer 4

there will come a day when you will be in a relationship that actually matters to you, that you will do anything to stay in it and keep ur girl happy.

how cheesy did that sound  

Answer 5

Well, it sounds like you could have some personal issues to sort out for yourself concerning reality, selflessness, and true intimacy. This is not intended to be a judgment, but from what you describe you seem to be running out just before all of that truly comes into the picture. Either that or you simply haven't found the right person. I've been with the same person for years and the honeymoon phase hasn't ended.

That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with you wanting to just be alone for awhile. Contrary to what the media indicates and what immature people will try to push you into, you don't have to constantly be on the prowl just because you're a guy. Just like having a guy in your life does not prove anything if you're a girl. Having someone in your life is not a necessity--it's a choice and a commitment. If you're not ready or don't want that, that's a choice, too.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it so much. Relax. Don't close yourself off from the possibility of a relationship completely, but don't go looking for one either. Work on other aspects of your life and don't think about it. Be yourself, live your own life, and when it's right, you'll know it.