Cant get past Assault.. (Serious q, pls help)?

Question

I was assaulted 3wx ago; he's being held on attempted murder. He was X byfd, i very casually dated. I got pregnant; he had a gf (i did not kno), i refused to terminate my pregnancy, and he wanted me/baby gone.. I was beaten, choked, left to die, then miscarried my baby.

I have great family/friends, but I cannot get past this; which i understand is normal @this time. I should talk2 Dom.Vio. couns, but i cant.. We dated 2mths, never lived 2gether, & i work w/abused population already; I dont see myself as a victim; and while it strikes all demographics, i cant accept being a D.V. victim) I cant find my own therapist 2discuss as they "do not feel comfortable' w/something @this level" (believe or not)!

I am so angry I just want the ugliest of things on this a$$! At my best, this has NOT left my mind for 1second; @my worst, i wish he just finished the job.. I know i dont want to loose anymore of my life, but i hav no idea what to do..

Answer 1

Keep searching for someone to talk to.  A lot of professionals won't get involved because they're afraid of having to testify in court.  But there will be one out there that will help you just keep looking.  I am sorry this happened to you.

Answer 2

i'm very angry right now that you were even placed in this situation myself,so i wouldn't be a very good one for advice.however,depending on where you live,i DO know of a VERY good counselor/therapist that would help you take this head on.you understandably don't wish to or haven't had time to set up an e-mail account,but you may contact me through my 360 account if you'd care to.this is,a very serious issue and it needs to begin being resolved soon.you know that it isn't goin' to happen overnight!whether you choose to accept it or not is immaterial,you ARE a victim!!no one asks for or deserves to have been through what you did.its difficult enough to work with folks like you do on a daily basis but nearly impossible to objectively fix yourself once you've found yourself in the same spot.until you are able to deal with this and get past it,you are allowing him to continue to abuse you.it MUST stop!!!

Answer 3

There is always someone to talk to and you need to talk. You don't have to qualify your self or label the event just talk about it with someone without thinking about what it is--think about what you feel start with that and see where it goes--what I mean is don't describe yourself as a victim of anything--you seemed to have labled your situation and it's almost like you have put the cart before the horse by predicting all that will happen because of what happened and all that can't happen because of what happened none of it is who you are it is something that happened to you-an experience you need to share.

Answer 4

wow u should write a book about it and become famous - i reali hope this is the truth cause alot of ppl lie on this.

wat happened to the guy?

do u hav a baby?

seek help quick !

So sorry to hear this - gud luck!

Answer 5

You have to vent these feelings somehow or you will pop. I would suggest some sort of an outlet like writing, painting, or playing an instrument. You have to deal with this even if no one else will help you. Best wishes.