Can;t stop feeling sorry for myself.?

Question

TTC for over 4 yrs. just heard that a friend is carrying. it makes me upset & sad each time i hear someone's had a success, i end up in a breakdown...its becoming hard for me to cope with this...it makes me a unpleasant person...i feel very bad inside but who can i go talk to...talked to my partner but he can only comfort you soo much. Considering IVF.

Answer 1

I am so there with you, been ttc since my six yr old daughter was born tried all the treatments and nothing. My sister n law is six wks preg with her third one since I have been trying, this one she is aborting I am so sick (literally) about this I cant get from the garbage can I really really feel for you I hate to see others preg it makes me a horrible person too and has ruined many friendships  unfortunatley. [e-mail]

Answer 2

I know your pain, i fell the exact same way.  My husband and I have been ttc for 3 years now.  In december last year we got pregnant, was a big suprise, and we were so happy. Shortly after, I found out that my cousins wife is pregnant too, and she was just 2 weeks ahead of me.  I had a miscarriage in March this year wich was very devastating knowing that my cousins wife is having a healthy pregnancy, and I lost the baby.  Its really painful every time I see her with her big belly, and a big smile on her face, I would always remember that thats how I would had been if I would not had miscarried.  My baby would had been born just about 2 weeks after hers.

Its very normal to feel like you are, I still fell very depressed, over the loss and not being able to get pregnant yet. Dont give your hopes up, our day will come too. Did you see a Fertility specialist?  You should go to an Reproductive Endocrinologist.  I am seeing just a regular Endocrinologist next month and I will ask them to do some test to find out if I am not deficient in any of the hormones.

I wish you all the the best!! And Lots Of Baby Dust!

Answer 3

It's o.k to fel sorry for yourself.Don't worry about what other people think.Just be glad you're not at the stage where you've tried everything yet.You haven't said if the problem is your's or his.Or how old you are ?

You'll get through it.

Answer 4

You said of your partner "but he can only comfort you soo much"

Wish my partner was so understanding of my limitations.

But I think you need help, someone to talk to other than your partner.  Ask your doctor if there is a counsellor available on the NHS.  Best idea.

Answer 5

Why not speak to a doctor not only will you be able to talk with him/her, they may be able to give you something to give yourself a boost and make you feel happier.

Also if you tell them you and your partner are considering IVF they may be able to put you through to some organisations that may be able to help with the costs etc.

Answer 6

ive been ttc 4 1and half years i feel the same as you,if u ever wanna talk feel free....just add detail and ask 4 my email address,thinking of egg donation

Answer 7

i felt like that and it only took me 6months! then i miscarried and now trying again

good things come to those who wait :)

one day soon you will have a beautfil little baby

talk to your GP they can offer lots of ways to help you conciee aswell as comfort you or send you for councelling

Answer 8

i pray 4 u,take FOLICACID vitamin E and zinc

Answer 9

Well, stress and depression have never been helpful in TTC. However, I too felt the way you do now. I tried for 3 1/2 years, but we never tried IVF. Just keep your head up and know that you will be a wonderful mommy one day. IVF was very helpful for my sister and everyone else I know who has tried it. Obviously it is costly, but children are costly in general. I will NEVER regret NOT being able to conceive. Our child is the most precious thing in the world to me. I wish you great success.

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