Career Women?

Question

I dont have kids yet but I will after I marry my boyfriend in July Im going to stay home and take care of my own kids Why dont career women give up there careers when they have children Daycare is not Mom I dont understand it

Answer 1

Because they want different things than you.  I am sure many wonder how you can have no life other than your future family.

I would suggest educating yourself to the point of forming a sentence before you do this though.

Answer 2

In today's economy both parents work out of need, not want.  And, once you interrupt a career you cannot get it back on track.  Research has shown that children who go to a good preschool are advanced in elementary school, compared to those that do not.  They have learned out to enter groups, better interpersonal skills, more self-control, higher verbal and cognitive skills.  Many women who do not work, put their children in good pre-schools (academic preschools) for this reason.  (psychologist)

Answer 3

A lot of families aren't as fortunate to have the mom stay home..The wife can provide a good source of second-income if she works. Even an extra 30K can make a huge difference in raising the family.

There's also something called grandparents and relatives that can look after kids.

Answer 4

Because they are selfish nasty shrews, that sacrifice their children for their own SELFISH ambitions!! Good for you for having some sense!!!!

Answer 5

I'm sorry but who on earth are you to tell other women what they should do with their families?

Ah, that's right. You're no one at all.

Thank you for your input, ignoramus.

Answer 6

It's not selfish to provide for your children, April. Many women work because their husbands don't make enough money to support 3 to 4 people.

It's selfish to impose something you cannot relate to as something that is wrong - when it's not. Many need the money to buy clothes, feed their kids and put a roof over their heads. I'm sure many don't want their kids brought up in daycare, but the sad fact is many people don't have a choice when they have a mortgage!

Answer 7

You're right - Daycare is not a substitute for the love of a mother, the attention one can get from their own parent, and the nurturing a solid family unit can provide.

That being said, many women who live in double income households are either forced to, due to the rising costs of housing, gas (I felt the burn at the pump today! lol), cars, etc, OR they want to continue living as comfortably as they do.

While I see where you're coming from wanting to look after your own children, not every woman is the same. I personally intend to care for my children (don't have any yet) until they have reached pre-school. That's about 4 years - that's a long time for me to not be earning any of my own income in my opinion. While my boyfriend makes a sizable income, I enjoy vacationing, designer clothes, nice cars, and I intend to live in a large house with a pool (like I said, every woman is different).

I can't foresee being able to afford all of those things on a single income. I don't think that many families could afford that lifestyle on a single budget either for that matter.

I've said this before, on a different question, but I want to provide my children with everything my mother couldn't afford for me when I was a child. Growing up with a mother who didn' t have a job proved to be hard on our family.

Another reason I don't intend to stay at home with my future children their whole childhoods is quite simple: I have invested a lot of time, money, and effort into my education and building an outstanding, impressive resume. While having children is a blessing and a gift, I intend to continue investing in myself, my future and my career. I don't see a reason why I should have to stay home with my children after they have reached pre-school if I want to continue working.

Edit: I thought answers got deleted after tons of thumbs downs? Why is the answer with 23 thumbs downs still on here? eh? eh? lol

Answer 8

Because they don't have to. It's that simple. And at this point, I'd say having to KEEP their jobs is more likely.

Answer 9

Because I want my daughter to have a broad education and not end up an ignorant, illiterate, judgmental woman like you.

Answer 10

what have i been thinking? now i'm going to go quit my job and drop out of college to please someone who took their username from the movie mean girls because you know how to raise my daughter so much better than i do.

Answer 11

well because every one is free to live their life the way that they please.

Sounds like you've got a massive chip on your shoulder, needing to justify your own decisions to criticise others.

I, as a career woman who also intends to have a family, am utterly sick and tired of hearing criticisms by 'stay at home' mothers for a woman's choice to continue with her career after she has children.

Career women do not criticise stay at home mothers, we celebrate their decision and the luck at not having the pressure of earning an income.

ALSO - have you ever stopped for a second to think that perhaps a woman has a lot to contribute to society as a mother and as a career woman? and to pull her out of society 100% is actually a loss for society?

Answer 12

Because many people don't MAKE enough money to have this happen. You know we're pretty much in a recession, right?

Answer 13

Some women's partner die or become disabled or their husband loses their job or can't make enough money to pay the rent and food bills-so the woman who has kids has to work to support their children. What will you do if your boyfriend gets hurt and can't work and you have children? What happens if he dies or loses his job and can't find another one? What if he meets a sweet young thing and leaves you high and dry? Not all of us have mommy and daddy to pick up the tab when the breadwinner disappears.

Answer 14

I am a single mother. I have to work. didn't you ask this before? at least you stopped yelling.

Like i said before I am NOT a career women I work 3 jobs to support us so my daughter can have a roof over her head and food to eat. how is that selfish? is it selfish for me to want to support MY child without any hand outs? is it selfish for me to want MY child to have what other kids have a ROOF over her head how is that selfish? she only stays there 8 hours 4 days a week I have her the rest of the time.

I spend lots of time with my daughter she is 2 years old. I read to her every night go to the park. go to the zoo and spend time together. she is HAPPY, SMART, and very HEALTHY.

If you can stay home good for you but don't judge anyone else who can't stay home. YOU have NO right to judge anyone.