Carla neggers quote. something about falling in love means losing a preconceived notions behind?

Question

I am looking for a quote from a carla neggers book but I can't remember which one. The quote is something about falling in love means having to loose all of your preconceived notions behind.

Answer 1

i remember it too, I think it was preconceived notions of your perfect mate.... or some such.....