Casual "relationships" with friends?

Question

Can sexual relationships with friends work out?

Does anyone here have or had anything like that?

Answer 1

I wouldn't be interested in finding out!

Answer 2

depending on how your relationship with your friend is and how well you two know each other then it will go great some people will say that it wont work but that's because of the things they went through but no one knows you or your friend. So if you two know whats going down starting it then feelings should not be involved. Take this from my own personal experience

Answer 3

I haven't been involved in one, but I've witnessed the evolution of relationships like this.  They seldom work out, if by working out you mean they each were satisfied with the long term results.  The problem is that each person has different expectations of the outcome of this arrangement, perhaps because they weren't completely honest about what they were wanting in the first place.  Or, when they got sexually involved, one person got emotionally attached while the other still considered the relationship to be nothing more than sexual servicing.  The one that got emotionally involved, even though they denied the deeper feelings, grew to feel betrayed and used.  Sometimes, the one who just wants things to remain casual pretends to have deeper feelings so they don't lose their free s*x partner, so the other person ends up feeling rejected and manipulated.

Bottom line is that any healthy relationship involves real caring and love; any healthy sexual relationship involves respect and love.  Casual sexual relationships only involve satisfying physical needs with no emotional bond.  Human beings require emotional satisfaction as well as physical satisfaction.  That's why casual sexual relationships feel empty in the long term and will hurt someone in the long term.  

Answer 4

tried to do that with one of my sister's friends that i've known for like 10 years. lasted about a month before things got weird. she would come over to my apartment on friday or saturday nights after we were both already drunk. then she would leave right after. no cuddling, hugging, and very little kissing and it still got weird

Answer 5

never done it, but I'd advise: DON"T DO IT!

Answer 6

They can work out in the short run, in the long run they'll never work out, sooner or later one persons emotions get attached, whether that be the girl or the guy, it will happen..

Answer 7

Well it pretty much depends on the person =]

Answer 8

Work out how? I've had a few in my day and trying to have casual s*x and being friends has never worked for me. Someone either gets clingy or jealous and upsets the cycle.

Answer 9

You will hear some people talk about "friends with benefits", but rarely, rarely are both people seeing the relationship in the same way - almost invariably one is expecting things to turn romantic.  Inevitably the friendship is destroyed by this behavior.

Don't use your friend this way, nor allow them to use you.  It is a recipe for disaster.

Answer 10

1. sometimes but don't count on it.

2. nope. the attraction was there but she was married, bummer.

Answer 11

i wouldn't advise it. things can get messy.