Cat litter and garbage..and my husband. What to do?

Question

My husband works very hard for our family any where from 10-12 hours a day for our family so I feel bad complaining about this..We have two cats and I have asked and told him several times that he needs to clean their box..I know the risks involved and know why litter is so dangerous..so thats not my question..He won't clean the box..So once its filled compleatly..so i'm left to clean it myself (with gloves and then using sanitizer afterwards) ..I clean all the time the whole house and all the laundry..dishes etc etc EVERYTHING he doesn't have to do anything at all..And all I ask is him to clean the litter box once a day or everyother..DO you think this is fair?? I've told him numerous times to do it..and he just moans and groans ..how do i get him to do it???

Answer 1

No I don't see it as fair to you. I am 4 months preggo and my husband works full time over 80 hours every 2 weeks and is also a full time student at college. And there are times when I have to be on him about the litter pans also and we have 3 cats and they are VERY picky, it's so hard for me not to do the litter pans myself and it does get frustrating. I know exactly where you are coming from. Maybe you can explain to him what the kitty litter may do to the baby and yourself and hopefully he will see where you are coming from and he will start helping you. Good luck!  

Answer 2

You poor thing.  I feel your pain and I am sorry.

First, pull up all the research on why you should not be cleaning the litter box.

Next, make a list of all the things you do around the house.  Include laundry, dishes etc.  This list is Going to get ALOT longer with the baby.

Tell him you are over whelmed and ask him what duties he would like to take over for you.  ie if you made dinner, maybe he could do the dishes?

You are both working full time and you are pregnant.  Ask him if he will go to pregnancy classes with you.  If he moans and groans don't get upset he's probably just not getting it yet, just tell him that you were hoping for his support during the pregnancy.  Tell him you're scared of the risky stuff and need his support.  Most guys are clueless until they take a class.  My hubby had ZERO clue until we went.  Then they usually get all wow I had no idea.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

oh your husband and mine have bunches in common, I have just one cat and he's a litter box filler, I have a cover on mine and have it in a tiny little cubby area that's all his area but the smell still gets me and getting him to do it ugh a challenge, I've done the mask and gloves but I am so huge I can't even bend over, and you will soon be in this situation also so I suggest you sit calmly and explain you would love to be on top of these things and make it so he didn't have to do them but until men can conceive and bare the weight of giving life the simple little task that may seem obsolete or redundant and a pain still must get done and he just needs to realize that he got the easier end of this deal, just stay calm and let him know this giving birth and baking a human ain't all that and a bag of chips it's constant work, worry and loss of control of everything, paint him the picture of what you are doing so he really grasps this is real bub and it's crunch time man up and deal with tthat you will miss some sleep but ataeast he's not running to the bathroom every 30 minutes, good luck big hugs!!

Answer 4

Honey I can relate! I'm so sorry you are in this position too. Get your cats tested for toxoplasmosis so you can at least put your mind at ease.  

As far as is it fair....OF COURSE. He needs to do his share. When you are both calm try bringing it up to him in a very reasonable voice with no personal attacks like "you never clean up after yourself...." Instead try "I'm really worried that something could happen to our baby. Would you mind helping me out with the litter box?" It took a long while with mine but finally he's helping out more.

Oh! And don't forget to praise and tell them how much you appreciate them working so hard and helping out blah blah blah. lol I would love it if someone talked to me the way I talk to my hubby.  

Good luck lol