Changing you name to your childs name..... Amazing idea!!?

Question

I just saw Kristy post that she had considered changing HER name to her child'd birth given last name...... Amazing Idea!!

Not sure if my husband would have gone for It, but Hey, I took my husbands last name.

Has anyone else thought of that? It never even crossed my mind. Thanks for that thought, Kristy!!

Answer 1

My children were abused by their birth parents, and I would wonder why any of us woudl want to take the father who beat the mother and the child's name as our own?  

The children will know their original names at birth but, no I would not consider taking their name.

Answer 2

Okay a neat idea under the right circumstances....

However, we adopted siblings and aside the protection issues with Foster Care adoptions.... Our children full siblings were given different last names--neither of which were even that same as their mothers? So--good idea under the right circumstance if this is what the family wants to do....

Answer 3

I've been talking to my husband about that.  I'm not in love with my husband's last name, it's long and difficult to pronounce. His father disappeared when he was a baby, so I don't see why he's more attached to his last name than I am to my maiden one.   Our children have a beautiful, musical sounding last name and I've been working on my husband for us all to use theirs. It means 'blessing' in their language.

Answer 4

That might work if you adopt only one child;  but what if you adopt more than one, with different last names?   It wouldn't be fair to the others.

Answer 5

i don't like the idea and i'm adopted

Answer 6

Yeah I think thats a great idea!! My aparents weren't even told my name so...... that option wasn't for us, but in this day, i think its something that should be done more!

Wouldn't it be great to see families moving to the "adoptees" home country, learning their language and changing the afamilies last names to the adoptees" in adoption? Then you would know that the adoptees needs were REALLY being considered and taken into account.

Answer 7

Yes an interesting idea...you could also combine your last name and that of your adoptive child to create a new name for your whole family.  :)

Answer 8

You're welcome! :-))

I am single, so it would have been easy for me to do it.  If I were married, I am not sure how it would work.

PS about the siblings issue, I did think of that too and figured I could always hyphenate them.  It's just a way to show us as a family unit on paper.

PSS gershom said:  "Wouldn't it be great to see families moving to the "adoptees" home country, learning their language and changing the afamilies last names to the adoptees" in adoption?"

That's a good idea, too.  I've often looked at the US Federal jobs posted in Guatemala- just to see.  I don't think I'd move there just to move, but if there were ever a situation where my son got into some sort of trouble and for some reason or another (who knows what immigration/citizenship laws will be in the future) got deported, my immediate family knows that I'd be right with him going back to Guatemala.  My Mom's response to that was-- "Well, he can't go without me either."

Answer 9

I do not like the idea.  You take on a new last name but turn your back on your biological birth family?  I do not see how it can be supported by people on this site since most are so commited to not changing idenities so why change yours?