Charged with simple assault?

Question

My bf and I got into a scuffle, he called the cops and wasn't exactly honest. I ended up going to jail and charge with simple assault. I wanted to be a cop, and i have NO RECORD. i WAS A POLICE EXPLORER FOR 4 YEARS. We just got upset and I am suffering from post par-tum depression.

He didn't want me to go to jail, he just wanted me to calm down. He didn't press charges the state did. I have bruises from the fight. What can I do to still have a life. We are going to counseling, and I am taking depressants now.

We have to small kids that were in the bedroom during fight.

I don't want him to get in trouble.

Answer 1

You were an explorer?  Do you not see the red flags in your own statements?  "I have bruises"  "I don't want him to get in trouble"  And "he was less then honest with the police". That last one gets me - it's about the nicest spin you could possibly put on 'he lied to keep himself out of trouble while putting me in jail'. Making excuses for him and his treatment of you.  And 'scuffle'  trying to minimize what was a fistfight or violent domestic.  You were suffering from post partum depression and his supportive way to deal with you was to leave bruises? C'mon girl, what would you and your officer advise the complainant of if you were called into this situation?   Please - reach out.  I hope you stay safe.

Answer 2

That's tough.That's a lose lose situation.A misdemeanor won't totally ruin your chances of becoming an officer but you all should split and stay apart because if it happened once there is a 90% chance of it happening again.Always in the heat of the moment.Only it will escalate.You don't want your children to witness it either.Good luck.

Answer 3

If he didnt press charges then it wont be on your record.. you still have a chance to be a cop.

Answer 4

.   If you don't get into any more trouble ,  you can be a police officer.  You may have to start in Corrections and transfer later.  Be on your best behavior and do not make excuses for bf or he will see you as a target instead of someone who loves him.

Answer 5

I think it depends on what state you and your boyfriend live in. In some states, whenever there is a domestic dispute call there is a requirement that one party leave the home for a set period of time. I don't know the exact name of this or if it even requires that person to go to jail, but the intent is to let the arguing parties cool off and not kill each other.

If this is a first offense and no weapon was involved, you'll most likely get probation and a requirement to attend anger management classes and stay out of trouble for a year. At the end of that time, you can have the arrest expunged (permanently removed) from your record.

Answer 6

Why did your boyfriend lie?  His lying got you in trouble.  CPS will probably find out about this, so they'll be on your butts for a while.  If this is a continuous cycle, you will probably lose the kids.

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This is a very dysfunctional relationship.  Why do you keep making kids with him?  He hasn't married you because he's not a real man.  If he was a real man, he'd have married you long ago.  You are his free prostitute.  Leave him, and stop making babies when you aren't married.

You probably will lose custody of your kids if you choose to stay with him.