Cheated on my wife...help please! ?

Question

I cheated on my wife with her sister. I know it sounds crazy though I am love with her sister and we want to get married ourselves. I have 2 kids with my wife and we have been married 7 years. One of them is 6 the other is 2. How would I explain this to my wife? Or should I just stay trapped in this relationship which is not working for me anymore. Would it be too awkward for my kids when they visit me if I get divorced? Please help!!! It turns out she is pregnant too with my baby. I asked this before though this was just told me to me that she (the sister) is pregnant with my baby.

Answer 1

I'm sure your kids will love having their aunt as their step-mommy and for their mother to be humiliated and heartbroken by two people she should have been able to have faith in.

My advice is to leave her for HER benefit and if you have any morals find someone else to have a relationship with that's not her sister! Think of how shameful this is to them when it's you effing up out of your own selfish desires.

I really hate cheaters!

Answer 2

Both you and her sister should be shot! I can't believe that you would cheat on your wife and much less with her sister! That is completely wrong!!! And to think that you would even consider marrying her sister, you really should be hung by your balls and then shot! You need to stop being so selfish and think about your wife that you have kids with and have been married to for the last 7 years and think about your kids and think how they would feel about the situation! You need to make your marriage work and if you can't get a divorce but leave her sister alone!!!!  

Answer 3

Why do you keep asking this same question?

Answer 4

First of all you committed adultery. Next you are full of lies, because you are lying to your wife and children. God has a place called h**l for people who commit these types of sin, unless you repent nd ask for forgiveness. You should never have gotten with the sister in the first place, and before you decided to cut out, you should have just told your wife and legally divorced her, then went elsewhere not try to keep it in the family, which is wrong. It is low enough already what you have done unto your wife, but to say about your own children which came from you, that you don't care about those precious little children, woe unto you. Read the story of king David in the King James Bible and see what the Lord did to his child born out of wedlock, and because king david committed adultery,the Lord  took it. Suppose the sister has been cutting out on you and the child is by someone else? You both will reap what you sow, and the Lord will deal you both justly.You should repent, ask God for forgiveness, and your wife, and tell your wife the truth, so she can choose what is best for her and your  children.You will find that the grass is not greener on the other side like you thought it was.  

Answer 5

Well u r definetly not wise beyond years!!!! First if u dnt want to be with your wife then get a divorce. but just know what u r doin to ur kids and if u have a son, look at what kind of role model u r being for him. Second, u need to leave her sister alone. What if ur wife finds out? Do u know there a chance that u may not be able to be n ur kids lives? Do u know what u will do to her???? She will hate u and so will ur kids wen they grow up. If u want to get a divorce then go ahead. i dnt think u will have to worry bout that though. m pretty sure wen r wife finds out that her neice or nephew is her husbands child, she will divorce u anyway

Answer 6

I could have answered up to the last sentence you added. You should go find a hole and crawl into it pray real hard about how selfish you are then go tell your wife about your affair and learn to love your kids no matter what you feel or dont feel for your wife, as for the sister, I have no idea.

Answer 7

I want to see the S**t hit the fan when your wife finds out...you are in deep c**p..

Answer 8

Loser

Answer 9

you are a complete wa**er!! wtf! how can you say you dont care about your children! if you were my husband id have you shot! your a piece of s**t! you deserve wot eva ur wife gives you. Wan**er!!!!  

Answer 10

You Are A Sick Pig And Like What Some One Said Already If You Where In Front Of me I Would Kick Your Azz You Fu#$ Pice Of Sh%$

Answer 11

You should be real proud of yourself- how can you sleep at night? It is obvious that your wife deserves better so although this will definitely rip her life apart, you are doing her a favor. The worst part about all of this is the fact that her own sister would do such a thing to her. Unfortunately it is also, a crying shame that a child will be brought into this world in the middle of nothing but, utter chaos. I hope you both realize what turmoil you will be causing to not only your wife & children but, also to her entire family.when the truth comes out. All that for a few moments of stolen passion- very disheartening to say the least.

Answer 12

That is sick...Poor kids...Poor wife...You should really seek counseling and you should actually be put in jail for being a loser....

Answer 13

You are a man obsessed and desperately deceived. You have heard a lot of anger here towards you and justifiably so but you asked for help so here it is... You need to tell your wife the whole story and get down on your knees and beg for forgiveness, tell the sister it is over and you never want to see her again (except she will see the checks in the mail because you will be paying for the baby until he/she is 18 yrs. old). And if your wife will forgive you and doesn't divorce you, you will both go at least once a week to a marriage counselor (for at least a year and if you can't afford it make arrangements to meet with a pastor every week), you will give your life to Christ and learn how to be a good husband and father, you will treat your wife with the love and respect she deserves, you will be a good father to your children staying active in their lives and providing for their and their mothers needs. These are the things you should have been doing in the first place but failed to do because you were selfish. You can not be selfish any longer, it is time to BE A MAN and own up to your mistakes and make things right. Your wife may leave you, you must support your children (monetarily and emotionally and be there for them when the court allows) and DO NOT take up with the sister, stay away from her. You must support her child too. BE A MAN and own up to your responsibilities... it won't be easy but this is the only way you will be able to live with yourself.  Heed my advice.  And please give your life to Christ, he will give you the strength to do all you should be doing, he will help you to do what is right.

After reading all your ques. and answers (yes, i can see all your questions and all your answers) I can see you have some real problems and need to seek professional help, although maybe that should have been evident anyway. You need Christ in your life desperately. But I think you should leave both your wife and her sister alone and seek help, because what I read sounds abusive. I have to say quite honestly I am afraid for both of them.

Answer 14

Just sit back and reap what you sow in life...

...just like the rest of us.

And try to get your 15 minutes of fame on Spinger with this one while you ar at it!

Answer 15

Looks like your gonna be payin alot of child support.Your wife can do way better than you.And 9 out of 10 the sister will eventually ditch you to.Cause if she can do that to her own sister,she doesnt have any morals .Set your wife free,let her be happy with someone who wont do the ultimate betrayal to her.LOSER!

Answer 16

all i can say is good luck to you i will keep your kids in my prayers they are about to hit a very hard dry road........

Good Luck  

Answer 17

personally i think you should take this up with jerry springer!!!  

you are a perfect candidate for his show!!!

your families and your children will be sooooooo proud!!!!!!!!!!!!

what a guy you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 18

Wow, I sure wish you were standing in front of me right now.  I would love to hit you.

Actually I think your wife and children deserve someone else.  Someone who will treat them like they need to be treated with LOVE.

You're wife's sister is an IDIOT if she thinks life with you will be any better than what her sister has.  You and the sister are a disgrace.

Ohhh....and I guarentee you are ugly and have a low self esteem.