Cheating: is "an eye for an eye" the right response?

Question

My boyfriend suggests that he cheat on me to balance a similar thing I did to him. Will this make things even, as he suggests, or worse, as I fear?

Answer 1

Worse.

The way that he is talking to you makes me feel like this is not a healthy relationship. You made a mistake...if he can't get over it, you shouldn't be together. If you both decide to stay together, you should definitely go to counseling. That will help. Him cheating on you will solve nothing.

Answer 2

Worse.

Answer 3

Worse - once this starts its a hurting game.

If he had forgiven you wrong doing - he would not have done it back, so obviously he thinks you will do it back again - and you will back to him.

If you can rise above it - if you love him and want it to work, don't do anything to hurt him back, tell him he's even with you. But you want it to stop there and make a fresh start, tell him how much you have hurt not only with what he's done to you but the hurt you caused yourself by doing it to begin with. Surely he would have hurt when you did it and knows the feeling, say you never want to feel like that again and will nevr make him feel like it. Do things together and try and tust each other, as that may be an issue.

Answer 4

If he needs revenge for this, then he's going to seek revenge for anything wrong that you might do. The both of you should break up and grow up.  

Answer 5

Now what kind of question is that?

It's not going to make things better in your relationship and it's going to get alot worse.

Answer 6

If he wants to cheat on you to "even the score" then he obviously hasn't forgiven you.

He should move on rather than waste your time.  

Answer 7

  I have to agree with the ones who said he hasn't forgiven you.  He is in understandable pain still and of course, it wouldn't make anything better, but it really doesn't soundlike it's all that good to start with.  It's possible he's incapable of forgiving you, and it  that case it's probably best to end it.

Answer 8

it will make it worse. i promise. you guys need to just get some counseling. i promise that will help more than anything. =D

Answer 9

It will make things worse.  

Answer 10

Worse hun, two wrongs don't make a right. If he can't forgive you for what's happened, even though you've explained & it will not happen again, then perhaps you're not in such a healthy relationship.

Everyone makes mistakes, as no one in this life is perfect, but if your bf intentionally goes about cheating on you, even just the once, then alarm bells should start ringing in your head & ringing loud.

Ok your bf is hurt, but to intentionally hurt you back knowingly is not on. His actions would then be classed as premeditated, meaning he has plotted & planned to hurt you & informed you of his intentions before hand.

That threat in its self is cruel, it just goes to show exactly how immature & sadistic your bf really is.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 11

An eye for an eye is not a bad i dear. By the way i am single and available.

well, if that is the deal that you two are agree too than may as well just you two just go swing with other couples so every thing is under agreement and also can not call that is cheat.

You can enjoy s*x with different men and he can enjoy s*x with different women. Group s*x may exciting you more

Answer 12

Ask yourself, WHAT DO ...I...REQUIRE FOR MYSELF IN ...MY...MARRIAGE?

No matter what the other jerk is doing, what do YOU, yourself, require for yourself, in your own marriage.  YOU can be TRUE TO ...YOUR...HUSBAND....IN..YOUR...MARRIAGE...

Don't pull in any more Karma, this lifetime or another.  You already are experienceing SOME type of Karma or your mate would not have betrayed you.  It could have been a betrayal of a friendship and he was on a chain of friendships, or maybe betrayal of a boyfriend and he was on the chain of mates, or betrayal of a sibling or something, but somewhere somehow there had to be some type of betrayal.....small or large.  It is usually the SMALL ones that whack you the hardest, because we refuse to acknowledge and repair them. We then pull in someone to teach us the lesson, really hard, if we still don't acknowledge it.

Don't go into shame blame and regret, just figure out where it came from, and move on.  If the jerk had diseases and is not worthy of you at this point in time, then move on...really move on...because he could endanger your life or the life of the kids...or grand kids WITH SOMETHING HE BRINGS YOU.

This guy is a boyfriend....you need to get the heck out of dodge, because he is one of those REVENGE type of people....

you don't need revenge people in your universe....MOVE ON QUICK!!!

ANYONE who stuck around a BOYFRIEND like that for FIVE seconds AFTER it happened IS JUST ASKING TO BE KICKED IN THE FACE.

If you cheated on him...again the Karma thing, but for you to STAY with the guy...afterwards that he even cheated on you,,...is just sticking your neck out and SHOUTING TO THE WORLD ...STEP ON ME...!!

Then you get into that LIFE game of OH WELL, IT WAS REALLY MY FAULT...HE MUST BE RIGHT, EVERYTHING IS ...MY...FAULT...OH WELL, NEXT TIME HE DOES IT...I WILL LEAVE...,OH, NEXT TIME, AND OH NEXT TIME.....

LATER, IT WILL BE ...WELL, WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THE KIDS,

NOW IT IS LIKE YOU ARE JUST COMLAINING ABOUT WHAT  WILL HAPPEN TO THE DOG.

DOGS YOU CAN GET AGAIN SO CAN A NEW BOYFRIEND BE GOTTEN,

BUT KIDS...ARE FOR LIFE!!!

GET OUT NOW BEFORE YOU ARE TRAPPED WITH KIDS...BETWEEN YOU TWO.

GET OUT NOW.....MOVE IT! HAUL ***, GET OUT OF DODGE,

QUICK!!!

NO MATTER IF YOU BOUGHT FURNITURE WITH HIM, MOVE ON, AND CHALK IT UP TO THE UNIVERSITY OF HARD KNOCKS....IT WAS AN EXPENSIVE LESSON, BUT WORTH THE MONEY....!!

Answer 13

2 wrongs never make a right,it may even things up but in the process it usually ends up to be counter productive, and will destroy the relationship.revenge never works out.

Answer 14

its not going to make him feel any better, as a matter of fact after he does it, its only going to make him feel worse. It doesnt take away the fact that you did it, So let him know that and make the decision for himself.

Answer 15

Trust your judgement. Consider a healthy relationship or none at all. You don't need this kind of drama.  

Answer 16

Worse! Two wrongs don't  make a right! Now there will be more hurt feelings!

Answer 17

You know the answer, it is Worse of course!

Answer 18

You need to read the rest of the chapter that "an eye for an eye" comes from. The next verse says we are to turn the other cheek which means we are not to try revenge for any reason. Believe me it is much better to let God do that.

He used that excuse to clear his own conscious. If your going to have a relationship based on revenge, then when is enough, enough? never !  

Answer 19

Two wrongs don't make a right!  

It will make things much worse.

Answer 20

Worse - sounds like your boyfriend hasn't forgiven you for cheating....if you 2 can't get past this, then don't be together....having him cheat won't help matters any...maybe he's met someone else and is using this "let me cheat so we can even things out" as an excuse.....