Cheating on her am i beng selfish?

Question

i have a best friend who i found out has recently cheated on his g.f , but i also know that the g.f has cheated on him too i dont want to tell each of them because there both my best friends so if i keep them togher i an be happy :) but before all lot say ur so selfish if i tel them both they may think im trying to break them up thn i will loose them as friends? what do i do?

Answer 1

Well to be honest i don't really see how this is your problem? Just do what your heart says..

Either be true and possibly lose both your best friends,

tell them the truth and maybe they will understand,

or not tell them, and stay friends..maybe feeling guilty or selfish?

It should be up to each of the couple whether they want to tell the other that they have been cheating.. it shouldnt be left to you!

hope this is helpful? x

Answer 2

dont say anything - let them find out for themselves - which they will!!

xx

Answer 3

I wouldn't tell either of them - they might not thank you for it. Let them find out for themselves and then they can't point the finger at you for telling them. I don' think it's selfish, it's just wise.

Answer 4

If you dont want to lose both of them as friends, you might want to just stay out of it and let them find out on their own.

Answer 5

Their cheating is fine by me, so why isn't ok with you?

Answer 6

honestly leave it alone its not your place to say anything you don't know the problems that they are having at home and or any arrangements that they may have why do i say this i tried it once with my SISTER i saw her new man go to another girls house he was there for hours because i knew some of the other people that where there well he cheated and i told her she confronted the girl the girl confused my sister took him back and they've been together for 10yrs so i just felt like an a*s i will never do it again ill keep it to myself

Answer 7

stay out of it, let them  handle things.just be their for both of them.

Answer 8

just let them tell each other and if they don't then it's there problem not yours.  

Answer 9

Hi I dont think you are being selfish as if you tell the truth about 1 then they find out you know the truth about the other person then that can cause problems, just dont let on you know its easier for all of you, then if they get found out its there own fault for playing the cheating game, you are doing the right thing. Just forget about it and let them get on with it.  

Answer 10

Let them find out for themselves.I know from experience that if you can't prove it then they will not believe you.I had friends who told me things all of the time aobut my exhusband but he told me they were lying.So I believed him, 9 years later we are divorced,because at 3 am a lady came to my house and knocked on my door to tell me that she had been sleeping with my husband.He was there and couldn't deny it.Let your friends see for themselves the true colors of their lover.

Answer 11

well look at it this way you have got urself in a mess what happens when they find out eventualy that u knew both of them cheated you will lose both of them anyway,and your bestfriend is gonna be more angrier at you cause your his best buddy,i would just tell your best friend (look im gonna tell u something but u cant be mad etc cause ur not innocent yourself and your my best bud so i thought its right i should tell ya etc) trust me atleast u wont lose his friendship cause thats more important right?  

Answer 12

you need to get them to tell each other, and you stay out of it, if they both know that you knew then you'll lose them as friends anyway so you're in a no win situation really soz  

Answer 13

In my experience, it's not a good position for you to be in the middle of their issues.  But it is their relationship and their issues, not yours.  It's tough to determine what would be best to do.  If you say something up front, you could be interfering.  If you say nothing until asked, you kept pertinent information from them.  I think the best advice I can give is to make a choice and deal with whatever consequences come your way.

Answer 14

Couples like this are best left well alone. If you tell either of them it will all fall back on you and they will resent you for it. Let them find out in their own time. They probably both know deep down anyway, just dont want to face it.

They are in denial that their relationship is no more than a fling coz they want to live happily ever after. Little do they know!!

Chin Up

Answer 15

its there choice to cheat, let them figure out there problems for themselves, obviously there is something off about there relationship, off enough that both of them cheated, just let things run there course, my best advice is dont get involved in a situation like that.

Answer 16

I think you're best off keeping out of it. It doesn't really concern you does it? It's their relationship and if they want to cheat on each other then why jeopardise your friendship with either of them to tell them about their cheating ways. these things have a habit of being found out eventually anyway.

Answer 17

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Answer 18

let them cheat on each other and catch ugly nasty diseases.  Looks like they deserve each other.  Concentrate on your life.