Cheating on my boyfriend?

Question

I used to have lots of dreams about cheating on my boyfriend. They went on for a couple of months. I figured that it was probably because that period of time was stressful for me because of our situation. We've been together for over a year and a half but we only get to see each other once a week and I was just confused about my feelings then. But I just started having them again. The first one was with this guy who I'm friends with who I've somewhat had feelings for in the past. The second one was with my bf's brother. He doesn't have one in real life, though. I knew that I had a boyfriend in both dreams I think, although I didn't really care. I'm not confused about my feelings for him. So far this summer, we've actually gotten to see each other most days, although this week I'm at the beach with family. I'm not stressing about the relationship at all. Although these dreams may start me doing so. Any ideas on why I'm having them and how to stop?

Answer 1

Dreams of this sort are generally reflections of real life concerns. So even though on the surface the relationship appears to be working, you may still be thinking about alternatives.

This is perfectly natural. Don't stress out about this. Instead, it may be helpful to write down your dreams and reflect on them. But do not try to come to definite conclusions about what you should do.; They are only dreams, not oracles!

You may ask yourself what the dreams might mean. It is more important what you come up with when you spontaneously reflect on the dreams than what other people might think the dreams "mean". As John Ciardi said about poems, dreams don't mean, they just are!

If the bf' s brother is older, then one possible reading is that you are thinking about whether someone like your bf except older and more mature might make a better match. If you feel more friendly feelings for this friend, then one possible reading is that you want a bf who can be a close friend not just a lover. But while these are pretty obvious and superficial readings,  it is much more important for you to reflect and discover what readings make sense to you.

Remember, this is just to enlarge your self-awareness. Never take an important action just because of a dream!