Child's behavior drastically affected after new sibling?

Question

I've had very concerning reports from my 3 year old boy's day care that he has had violent outbursts and has even hit himself repeatedly in bouts of frustration and anger.

This is new and probably the result of a new baby being brought home this past week, however I know this isn't "normal" behavior and doesn't happen to most kids in this situation.

Has anyone had the same experience? What should I do?

Answer 1

when i was 5, my mother gave birth to my little sister.  i didnt realize it then, but that was when she started doing "girls night out"s with me.  once a week, jut the two of us would go out to a restaurant or go to a movie, and i remember it being some of my favorite times.

i would suggest doing something similar with your son.  it will remind him that he is still very special to you and worth your time.

hope that helps

Answer 2

This is actually a very normal behavior for a child with a new baby in the family. They are looking for the attention that they once had before the baby was born. Try to give your child as much positive attention as you can. Get your child involved in caring for the baby as much as possible, for example, getting the diapers, wipes, or picking out an outfit for the baby. You  may also start to see your older child regressing into "baby-like" behavior due to the new baby's behavior. Encourage your older child they need to show baby how to be a big boy or girl by the positive actions of being an older brother. Make sure you are very verbal with your older son to make sure he can express himself verbally rather than physically. After he has his bouts of anger, give him some time alone to think about his actions, and then take the time to talk about what made him mad, why he got mad, and how he can express himself with words instead of hitting himself. Constantly remind him when you see him getting frustrated "use your words."

I hope I helped a little. Ask your day care what they are doing to calm your son, or maybe you can sit and observe him for a little bit one day to see if you can come up with a de-frustration plan together.