Child's rights after adoption??(Need answers big points)?

Question

I am adopted by my Great Aunt, she is horrible to me, I have lived with her since I was 2 weeks old, but I was just recently adopted by her 4 or 5 years ago. I know my biological Mother, and there was no reason other than she was unable to provide support. My great aunt verbally abuses me and she will not allow me to be myself, she's slapped me and slammed me up against the refrigerator, and she is always yelling at me. She refuses to let me have my own identity and style despite the fact that It's my life. I have honestly had anexiety attacks when she has been late picking me up or something, and i call her and she's pissed, I'm so afraid that she searched my room or is gonna kill me or something. I've honestly thought seriously about killing her, and now I want to go and live with my bioMom and I dont' know how to go about it. Please tell me and include your sourses.

Answer 1

Tell your birthmom about this, and you want to be with her.

Answer 2

Definately go to an adult and explain to them honestly what is going on. If a school administrator, counselor or teacher hears this they are required by law (at least in Texas) to call CPS. If you feel your life is being threatened, call the police.

Answer 3

You should talk with an adult in your life (teacher, counselor, pastor, doctor or someone like that) about the situation.  You should not be abused (physically, verbally or in any other way).  You are a valuable human being who is an individual.  I hope your situation changes and improves soon!

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is cal the cops next time she abuses you.  verbal abuse will not be enough for them to remove you sry but it is true. Also they may place you in foster care. If your mom couldn't afford you before can she now. They may not place you with  her  you may go to another family member or foster care

Answer 5

im with not know it all.....go to ur counselor at school. when they get child protective folks involved, tell them u want to live with ur Bmom, and if she wants u to come live w her, they will do home inspections at ur home....it might help if u start taking pix of any bruises she has put on u too...and if they take u out of the home, and ur Bmom wants u 2 come there, they will do an inspection at her home, to make sure it is safe, and all of that, and then maybe just maybe....

have u talked to ur Bmom about what is going on? that might be a good thing to do.

Answer 6

first things first she should NOT be treating u like this, do u have contact with bio mum? tell her, second u need to report this abuse do not stand for it, u need to get intouch with the adoption authorities an fast do not let this continue

Answer 7

ok if ur under 18 and your mom didnt sign a paper saying this child may find me when underage ur out of hope but if ur    at least 18 years of age you may access this information. states that allow access to non identifying information to an adoptive parent or a guardian of an adopted person who is still a minor.

Answer 8

First thing you should do is call the police or CPS (child protective services.)  If you tell them all the things your aunt is doing to you they will take you out of her home.  CPS specializes in reuniting families. They would much rather you live with family members then put you in a foster home.  So if they take you out of your aunts home, they will most likely contact your bio mother to see if she is in the position to take care of you. She would be their first choice as a guardian.

Answer 9

Dear Amanda,

As other posters have said, if your arebeing abused you MUST find a trusted adult to talk to who is in a position to help you. School counselor, teacher, religious persons, your physician, etc. are all good examples of people who are required to report abuse and get the ball rolling.

Start by documenting abuse. Photos of bruises, red marks, welts, scratches or any other injuries along with the date, time and a bried descriptiuon about how the injury was inflicted. Also write down any instances of neglect or emotional abuse as well. Have a reputable adult such as a school nurse or your physician also note any injuries or statements you have to make. These can be important to prove that the abuse is occuring and how long it has been going on.

I am going to assume that you are over the age of 12, which, in most states is the age where a minor is entitled to speak for themselves in matters involving their own custody. If you are removed form your Great Aunt you amy be assigned a GAL/CASA or other representative to help represent you in Court. If you are taken into temporary care you have the right to speak for yourself in front of a Judge.

Here are some links to resources you might find helpful in dealing with your situation:

http://www.childhelp.org/

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_ab...

http://www.stopitnow.org/help.html

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/help/ca.htm

If you do not have an adult who you are comfortable with to help you, please call:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

or

1-800-PREVENT (1-888-773-8368) This number is confidential call and does not use caller-ID

There are also several Teen support groups on-line such as Teens Helping Teens (On MySpace) and the Teen Resource Network. You can Google these amd more by typing  "Teen Support".

As to your mother re-adopting you, don't let anyone tell you to give up on that yet! IF you are removed from your Great Aunt and IF your mother voluntarily placed you and your were NOT removed from her, she may have a chance to claim you. (It will of course depend on your state laws and having the right people help her out.)

As she is considered a legal stranger to you, she may be required to go throught the adoption process like anyone else. There are some places which may consider her a "kinship placement". She will need to hire a good attorney to see what options you guys have and be able to prove that she is the best placement for you.

Good luck! I hope you end up in the best place for you.

Answer 10

This is what I did to get out of my home. I ran away and went to my fathers house. He took me to the local dcs office and explained why I ran away. I refused to go home no matter how much they told me I had to. i told them I was scared for my life. be careful dont let her have any clues that you are going to run. They will inverstigate her and if they still say you have to go home...keep refusing. Your bith mother has to have a room for you in her home and be able to pass a drug test and also provide for you finacially. Any more q's email me.

Answer 11

call dcyf. call social services and tell them you are being abused by the woman who adopted you and you want your real mother. you are old enough to speak up. tell them you are afraid of this woman.

Answer 12

talk to a teacher or reliable adult friend or better yet, social services. But also remember, there may be reasons that you don't know about as to why your bio Mom couldn't or wouldn't raise you herself. But it is still not right for your aunt/adopted mom to be treating you this way.

Answer 13

Please speak to someone at school or contact your local police department on your own.  If she is physically abusing you, they can take steps to have you removed from the home immediately.  They can also provide you with the counseling you will need to get through this.  

Does your bio-Mom know about any of this?  How does she feel about your desire to live with her?  You need to talk to her also.  While she may not have any rights, it could be possible that if abuse by your great-aunt is proven, you could stay with your bio-mom until things are sorted out.  But you would need to talk to your bio-Mom first to insure that she is okay with this.  You've already been thru so much, I'd hate for you to be disappointed or rejected again if she wasn't prepared for you or how you are feeling.

Either way, abuse is completely unacceptable.  You need to find someone who will listen and who will help you to go to the authorities.

Answer 14

I am assuming you are under 18 years old. Tell your concealer or teacher at school. They will help you get a hold of child protective services who will do an investigation at your home and get you the help you need.

Answer 15

I'm so, so sorry you're having to go through this.  I wish there was something I could tell you.  Unfortunately, adoptees have no legal rights.  The adults around you made the decisions, and you have to live with them.  It's a severely flawed system, and I'm so sorry that you have to pay for the screwed up system.

I was abused as a child, too.  I just got out as quickly as I could.  I left home at 16, and supported myself while I got my GED (went through an abusive marriage) and put myself through college.  Keep your head up.  You're a survivor, and you can overcome anything!

ETA:  I can't believe I'm still so jaded.  Reading the first two answers, I realize I didn't say a single thing about adults in your life who CAN be trusted.  I was so used to taking care of myself as a child (still am) that I didn't even think about that.  I didn't trust anyone as a kid (still don't) - but I would be willing to bet that there ARE trustworthy adults who might be able to help you get out of this situation.  People are more educated about abuse these days.  Take care!

Answer 16

first of all your mom must have a good reason not to keep you

and you need to tell an adult call the police

Answer 17

Considering I don't know your age, I hope I'm not too harsh. While I don't justify her slapping you, life could be alot worse. Parents(no matter what kind) will tell you what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. That's what makes a good parent. You let a child do anything they want and you end up with a brat!!! If I was you I'd take my life as it is, be thankful you have someone who cares enough to search your room, and do what your told to do. Life is not fair. You are clothed, not starved, not beaten! I grew up in foster homes. They all sucked.All 30 something of them. That's life. Be thankful you have a family.

Answer 18

I agree with other posters.  You should talk to a school counselor or a teacher.   Some people are controlling and need a 3rd party to intervene. Sometimes it IS your behavior and you have expectation that are unreasonable (for instance, I wouldn't allow a teenager to get a piercing anywhere but on the ear).  

Your mom has no legal rights to even house you, so forget that. You'd end up in foster care.  So, consider that.

I happen to also believe that some adults become out-of-control due to either unidentified illnesses or their treatments. That is rarely something looked at by CPS, but something to consider.