Child Endangerement - 4 yrs old, 28 lb, no car seat, front paassenger seat , riding on someone else's lap.

Question

My ex and I have share custody. Everytime he picks him up he always put our son in a front passenger seat with no car seat. I asked him nicely recently to put our son in his car seat at all time. Last night he picked him up and put him on the lap of his new girlfriend! I was so mad. When I confronted him with child endangerement, he got mad and saying that I didn't put him in a car seat either when i drop him off from my apartment door to my club house which literally feet away and the speed limit is 10 miles/hr. Beside that, I ALWAYS put my son in his car seat in the back seat when I travel with him. How do I enforced this to my ex to make sure that he always put our son safety first?

Answer 1

A child needs both parents in life but you need to think about your childs safety and stop wasting time because it seems that your ex doesn't care so call this number and they will help both you and your son if you really care.

The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)..........

Answer 2

basically you answered your own question.  men are like children.  when you show by example they usually don't have an excuses.  by ALWAYS strapping in your child properly on EVERY drive, no matter how close, you TAKE away his power from throwing it back into your face.  after some time, if still no compliance speak with your attorney.  i know it's hard, and i don't even know you, however you can take this as you will......always agree with him.  it stops them in their tracks, because they have no argument and they are stumpted as to what they say.  sooner, or later they give up, because they realize they don't have anything to say to you about anything, because he can't push your buttons anymore.  life will be more peaceful for you.  i hope this helps.  good luck.

Answer 3

Just wait until he leaves and then call the cops and report it.  Or better yet, to ensure that you are not held liable for 'allowing' your son to be in a vehicle unrestrained, have one of your friends call it in.

Answer 4

you really can't force anyone to do what you want.

Answer 5

As soon as he drives off with your son not in a car seat,call 911 and report it.Give plate # and everything.You have a right to protect your child.Children are a gift,and they should be protected at ALL cost.After a few tickets and maybe a boot on his car then maybe he Will wake-up.If he doesn't care about his self that's fine but your baby needs all the love and protection you can give.DO IT.

Answer 6

True story.  My dad was driving, I was wearing a seatbelt, I took it off to get out of the car, and then he crashed and I was injuried.  Whether it is 50 feet or 10 miles, something can happen.

Why use a car to go 50 feet?  By 4 years old, a child can walk that far.  If it is far enough to need a car, it is far enough to use a car seat.

Answer 7

Talk to your lawyer about it. Although this sounds a bit extreme, he can get in trouble for doing that, because it is against the law (well in my state at least). That can reissue his "custody" with the court, because that can twist towards child endangerment and neglect. I think that would scare the wits out of him..and would definitely put the child in the car seat when the law is behind it.

Answer 8

When his son is injured in an accident, he might realize the error of his ways. Unfortunately he doesn't have any common sense. IDK what you can do to convince him to put the child in the proper seat.

Answer 9

i went through the same thing with my youngest child. her father showed up drunk and without a car seat. i flat out refused to send her. i picked up her weekend bag and sent her back in the house. he was so mad screaming that i violated a court order. i told him to call the police so they could slap a DUI on him. he left and i called the police. in my court order (Ohio) it specifically states a licensed driver must pick up the child. the driver must be sober and a proper car seat is required.

for the record, why would you drive your child to a club house unrestrained? you are being a complete hypocrite.

Answer 10

well, mom, you pretty much negated your argument with him when you admit to not putting your child in the car seat to go to the club house - even at 10 mph he can still get hurt - and it is still the law - so from now on, even on that trip - put him in his seat.

Next time he drives off with your son not in his car seat, you contact 911 and have them pull him over letting them know the route he will take home.  A ticket for child endangerment in the car and a heavy fine will teach him a lesson.

Answer 11

Give his car description and pick-up schedule to a friendly local cop.     As soon as he enters public roadway,   he'll get a lesson in the laws.

Answer 12

You are doing what is required by law.  

More so, you are a concerned parent!!!

Call law enforcement when he leaves with him.

Maybe they can get the message to him!!!