Child behaviour problem. touching other childrens sensitive parts?

Question

Child behaviour problem. touching other childrens sensitive parts?

Answer 1

You need to figure out if this was curiosity or a learned behavior, without a doubt you need to document this instance for future reference and I would notify both parents of the situation. I had an instance like this not to long ago and found out how big of a deal this is, I thought it was just 4 year old curiosity and had a small non-big-deal talk with both children and then the one child did it again. I talked to the parents about the situation and they said they would handle it........ about a week later I was call by social services and asked why I didn't report abuse, I was shocked because I thought I was handling it well but as I found out that is, in repeat cases, 80% of the time a sign of abuse. I was suspended by my company for not getting them involved after the 2nd time. This can be serious but you definatly need to talk to the parents the first time, if it happens again you need to get social services involved, even if nothing is going on to save your own back side you need to call them, it is your duty as a care giver to do so, I found out the hard way and I will never forget it!

As for the idiot who cracked the joke about Molestation, you are an idiot, I can not think of anyone who cares for kids that would find that comment funny, your an idiot, and you should be removed from Y!A for that answer, I take high offence to people who would say something like that to a very serious question like this, it was a very good question because this isn't something you just know, you have to know someone who has been in the situation or seen this situation before to understand it. It is a very touchy situation on how you approach a child and their family after something like this, and your responce shows you ignorance of the situation! Your answer is most likely the stupidest I have ever seen on Y!A

Answer 2

you touch their sensitive parts?? most people would call u a child molester..

Answer 3

If it is children doing it to other children and it is not causing great distress I would caution against over-reacting. Children are often very curious, or they mess about. Of course if it is causing distress then it needs to be stopped, but depending  on the age of the children involved they can be talked to as a group, 2 of them, or just the one.

If the child is exhibiting sexualised behaviour then it is possibly a sign of abuse, but it may be much less than that - they may have seen p**n, or parents having s*x, or, as I said, they are simply curious.

I know that it is wierd for adults to see, but try and remember being a kid yourself - things went on that the adults disapproved of, but it doesn't mean that they were bad.

Answer 4

"punkmomm" made very good points... in addition to that... I don't know if your male or female, but when I was faced with this situation (assuming your talkin' about kids touching other kids) I documented it when it happened.  The date, the time, and the child's first name.

Just to cover your own tracks

Answer 5

The best way to deal with this is to have a talk with the whole class about private parts and good touch/bad touch. Then discuss it with the individual child privately to make sure he/she understands. If the behavior continues discuss it with the parents. Remember that this is generally normal behavior for young children. They are curious and don't have a good understanding of limits yet. If the behavior is excessive, doesn't stop after talking with the child and parents, and if you are concerned about other things that are going on with the child you need to start documenting what's happening and it may be necessary to report the situation to your boss and have him/her call child protective services.

Answer 6

A lot of people like to use the "bathing suit" idea of limits. As in, "Areas covered by a bathing suit are private." "No one should touch you in places where your bathing suit covers." Things like this need to be stated mater-of-factly in the same tone that you say things like, "The sky is blue."  As adults, we tend to add a lot of baggage to things that seem sexual in nature, when in reality (for kids) it is just another thing to ask questions and learn about.

With all that being said, if you have answered questions naturally and discussed privacy issues and you are still concerned, it may be time to call protective services. If your alarms are still going off, then maybe something is wrong and a professional needs to step in to evaluate the situation.

Answer 7

thats an iffy situation. i think it would be best to pull him aside and tell him that there is good and bad touching and that people dont like when you touch their private parts. it would be un wise to talk to the whole class about it because parents often get upset when their young ones are exposed to that sort of thing. if this little boys behavior continues then it really is worrisome. that is definitally a sign of a abuse and should be addressed as soon a s possible.