Child custody family services?

Question

My girlfriend and I had a baby. She has a history of violent behavior.

There have been several police reports. She has hit me while holding the baby and shoved me. Wrapped something around my neck.

I called the police that did not seem to be to concerned they did not try to arrest her, probally because of the amount of times they have been at my house. The following day she was threaten to sell my computer, and she was standing in the door way, on the phone. I quickly took the laptop from under her arm and closed the door. She then began to threaten me that she would hit the car if I would not give her money. She was hitting the car, so Called he police. I have an order of protection for my kids and I. The department of family services

came to inspect the house and the kids. He had interviewed me, I was honest with him and told him I did do cocaine 3 months ago at a party and smoked weed 1 month ago, and I did it 5 times in my life and that I did smoke weed more often many years ago. I did not feel comfortible lieing. I know my ex has alot to hide so she is going to lie.

I told my friend and he said I should have lied because I am going to look bad. Since all this has happened I am so nervious about everything I dont want my ex to have custody and now I am worried that foster care is knocking at the door. I realize that the situation I put myself in, may have to be explained later regardless of when. I will remind myself of this experience for my whole life when confronted with anything ilegial. Or moraly wrong.

Answer 1

yea dont admit to doing drugs to authorities... they have to prove it. depending on your background and job status you should be fine. that is always a stressful situation it will be ok, but you will probaly have to deal with her eventually.  

Answer 2

Its good you told the truth, but for goodness sakes - for your kids sake - don't do drugs - EVER!

Stay clean. If it comes up in court they may drug test you -  i dunno - but keep clean, you don't want your child to end up with this woman. Stay away from her as much as possible, have someone with you when you do exchanges with the baby and just wait for court to handle it.

Answer 3

just give them any proofs you have on her to level the field if it comes out she have

Answer 4

Be honest but not that honest.Drugs are illegial so you should not have told them that!  They will now give you a drug test if this goes to court so I wouldnt do anymore drugs. If they find trace amounts in your system they may not take your kids away but will continue to test you for a couple months to make sure you are clean. Just make sure you document and call police when your ex is involved! You make sure there is a record of everything and she will be only able to get supervised visits. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you want to take responsibillity and be a parent you can no longer dabble in drugs or go to parties. You can not allow this sort of behavior around your children. If your kids get removed use the time to think about what it means to be responsible and mature and work to get them back. Their mom sounds like they would be better off away from her, and you as well.