Child custody....?

Question

If you gave up custody of your child then wanted to try to get custody of that child back, that you'd do as the court ordered?

Minimum = 1 visit/week for no less than 90 minutesbut suggest you visit longer. And start paying child support.

Instead you visit only once in a 3 week period, for 95 minutes and paid no child support. You file another petition with CPS claiming the guardians have no clothes, toys, or even a bed for the child. CPS then finds your claim unfounded.

In that petition you ask to have guardianship changed from guardian to your parents (in their 50s and abused you as a child) and to have outside visits only during holidays.

If you truely wanted the child wouldn't you pay the support, visit every chance possible, and petition to regain custody of the child. And prove to the court you are a better parent for the child than the guardians? Instead you visit once, pay no support, and demand guardians go against the court order so you can visit.

Answer 1

From all the social workers, it is clear who "is doing everything needed" to get their children back.  They continue getting chances until it is clear one way or the other.  You don't have to prove that you are better than the guardians, just doing what the State or Judge tells you that you need to do to get your children back.  Visiting, paying support, and sometimes classes, counseling, or drug tests are needed.  Not much considering a the life of a child is up in the air while this is going on.  Basicially, if the State or Judge orders you to do something to get your children back - you do it or lose your children.  I am suprised to see that the parent who gave up custody even got a second chance byy the State or Judge to "perform" certian things in order to get their children back.  At that point they should have been thanking their stars for that "lucky break" and doing anything possible to do what the State/Judge's order required.  

I am sorry.  Some people just aren't mature or unselfish enough, they want to blame every everyone else for them not following through on their responsibilies.

Answer 2

That didn't answer my question.  If it is a baby adopted from CPS, then my answer would be different.  If it was foster adoption, why was the child removed?  

If it is infant adoption through an agency,  then I would question the agency.  Was there coercion?  Did the agency violate the rights of the parents?  What is the revocation period in your state?  They may have a legal claim.

I need more clarity to understand and answer your question truthfully and correctly.

Answer 3

can you give me more insite to the situation my father works for cps and maybe i can help!

Answer 4

are you the child/adult? you sound like the one who was victimized by the system and surrender, i'm so sorry if you are, that must hurt.

Answer 5

I think if the bio honestly wanted the child back they would do whatever it took. Obeying the court reg visitation, paying support.. Not wanting to put the child in a bad situation. In this case it sounds to me like they don't actually want the responsibility of being a parent just the title. Cases like this are why the courts look so hard into a bio wanting the child back. Some think that if they change their mind they should just be handed back the child. This is not true they should be investigated to the max before a child is ever given back to them. After all in most cases there is a reason the child is not with them. As for just changing their mind they should have thought it out very carefully before they gave said child up. Wanting it back is just further disrupting the child's life.

Answer 6

get your act together and go to counciling and get  a better my parents are in the same situation and now they share custody my mom pgot her act together