Child has problems with teacher.?

Question

Barely 3 weeks in to the new school year and my child is disliking school. This has never happened before, but she doesn't like the teacher. Although I don't mind a tough teacher , even I find that this teacher is going a bit far. My child has already received 4 F's in her first 2 weeks (never had an F before), one 0 for incomplete homework (which was not incomplete and I took care of it), she admitted that she overlooks homework and the zeros happen but she fixes it after the parents notify her. One method is , after 3 warnings the children get kicked out of class and brought to a different classroom to spend the rest of the day. A bit tough---considering it doesn't take much to get those 3 warnings. Some other parents and I felt completely ignored on meet the teacher night, because she was only talking about personal things with parents that seem to be her personal friends.This is 3rd grade. Any ideas, how to handle the situation.

Answer 1

You have some very legitimate concerns.  Schedule a one-on-one appt with the teacher and bring these up.  If she still seems to not listen, talk to her superior.

Answer 2

You're going to have to go up the chain of command.  First, start with the teacher:  Request a one-on-one conference immediately to discuss your concerns.  (Teacher night is NOT the night to bring up these concerns -- you are just meeting the teacher and seeing the classroom, not addressing problems.)

Find out what your daughter did to earn the F's -- most teachers don't give out F's casually.  Figure out if this is a case of "starting out strict" and then letting up on them as they get with the program.  Discuss her warning system, and find out what kind of behavior triggers the warnings. Ask her how many kids are taken out of class during the day.

If you don't like the answers, it's time to talk to her AND the principal.  But start with the teacher, first -- most principals, to support their teachers, won't talk to you unless you've tried to solve the problem one-on-one, first.

EDIT:  Glitter, you are certainly entitled to your opinion.  But I hope you aren't "waisting" your kids' time by teaching them spelling . . .  :-)  Homeschooling is certainly an option, but let's face it, most parents aren't cut out for it.

Answer 3

When my son had problems with his 5th grade teacher, I spoke with the teacher, I spoke to the principal, I spoke to the superintendent, I spoke to the school board, I put him in a different school.

Answer 4

First of all... there is nothing wrong with the public school system.

Next, I would set up a time to speak to the teacher without your daughter around.  You really need to find out why your child is getting low grades and getting into trouble.  If you are unable to see eye to eye on the issues you have at hand, put in for a room change for your daughter.

I would only suggest that you write out all of your concerns because this is an emotional charged situation and you may forget all your concerns.

Good luck.  I hope it works out for the best!

Answer 5

Stop waisting your time on the public school system. Why do we send our kids off every day to spend the day with a bunch of strangers??? Insane if you ask me!

I homeschool my kids and they learn 10 times more than they would in a public school.

I got so fed up with dealing with ignorant teachers and school administration. They don't really have the child's best interest at heart...here come the thumbs down!

MY OPINION, WHICH I AM ENTITLED TO!

Answer 6

I'd change teachers; if she was in middle school or high school and had a problem she could change teachers by going to the counseling office and change it. I'd change the teachers. Public schools do have lots of problems but so does homeschooling; honestly I don't think people who were home schooled are able to do college; a lot of them fail and don't do very well. They are also very socially retarded; not trying to be mean just honest. Your best bet is to change teachers if that doesn't work, change to a better school.

Answer 7

I would also suggest that you speak with as many of the other parents as possible to see if they truly feel the same way that you do. You need to make sure that you are not alone in feeling in this way. If you find yourself to be on your own, you definitely should schedule a one-on-one with the teacher to address the situation.