Child supervistiations?

Question

my bf has a son by his ex wife he has too have supervised visations when i asked him why he says because of his wife cause he cheated on her when they was together . my question is would the judge do that are does there have too be another reason

Answer 1

I believe there is another reason.  Typically it involves things like drugs or alcohol abuse, child abuse, abuse of his ex wife, major violence toward others, etc....something big.  Not just cheating on his ex wife.  His relationship with his ex wife has little to do with his rights with the child (abuse excluded as stated before).

It sounds horrible, but see if your area has a website where you could look up his records.  Missouri has one (  https://www.courts.mo.gov/casenet/base/w... ) I am sure other states do too.

Answer 2

Definitely another reason.

And you need to find out what it is, before you continue to see him.

You now know already that he has lied to you.

I'm going to look up what mandates super vised visitations.  

OK just looked at various sites across the US and they all basically say the same thing which are:

Domestic abuse (documented)

Charges or allegations of any type of child abuse

Substance abuse

Parents with severe mental illness

Parents who have been estranged from the child

He already admitted he was a liar once by cheating on his wife.  STRIKE ONE!

Now you are informed that he must of done something or been accused of something to cause supervised visits-- STRRRRRIKE TWO!  Then he lied to you about the reason for the supervised visits: STRIKE THREE--   HE'S OUT!

Answer 3

there must be another reason.

Answer 4

He's lying to you.  There has to be a good reason; supervised visitation is enacted to protect the child from possible harm, or abduction.

My friend's ex had supervised visitation with their daughter.  My friend's mother would take the girl to a local McDonald's and the father would meet with them there.  He would visit with the girl for a short time, and that was it.  The reason?  He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and had frequent episodes where he would hallucinate and totally lose touch with reality (psychosis). He attempted suicide at least twice (and finally succeeded).  There were few pharmacological treatments available in those days, and the ones that were available he refused to take (refusing treatment).  He once tried to abduct the girl and take her to Germany, but was found out in time. He had a penchant for pot (which we all did in those days but its still illegal).  And he sidelined as a drug dealer.

Anyway, the answer to your question is YES, of course the judge has to have serious concerns about the welfare of the child.  Would you as a judge have given the guy I described above unsupervised access?  No way, huh?

*And I'll bet there is more to it than just that.  This guy has skeletons in his closet - skeletons which caused his wife to divorce him in the first place.  He's lying to you.

Medication doesn't cure bipolar disorder - it only helps to control it.  People with bipolar disorder are famous for going off their meds; they enjoy the manic episodes too much.

PS: court documents are always in the public realm.  You can find out why the judge decided as he/she did because they are required to record their reasoning behind the decision.

Answer 5

someone said one reason was mental illness...

you said he has schizophrenia...so that very well could be it.

oh and Baba Yaga....dont be so mean about her spelling..she has some trouble with bigger words anyhow.

anyhow I looked up the Illinois s*x offender registry list..and he isnt on there..so yeah it could very well be his mental illness.

Answer 6

radical feminism has made it nearly impossible for men who don't play the game correctly or get the right lawyers to get a fair shake in court.

The court system is set up to reward whoever can corner the market on victim-hood.  Sometimes it's difficult for judges to believe the man is a victim; since they've been taught by popular culture that "men rule the world and women are oppressed.. blah blah".

only in extreme cases where women are abusive or completely incompetent is the male likely to get a fair deal (although, as feminism becomes internalized and institutionalized in the public schools, women are becoming more violent and more abusive all the time)

Answer 7

No, thats not enough of a reason to order supervised visitation.  There has to be a threat of harm to the child- that could include the threat of kidnapping.  

If your state has open public records - go read the court file.  It can tell you the issues - maybe not all of the evidence- but at least all of the allegations.

Answer 8

There has to be more.  A court would not assign supervised visits unless there was a chance the child would be hurt by unsupervised vists. Doesn't mean he has hurt the child but it does mean that he may have been accused of harming the mother, or has a record of violence or anger issue.

Answer 9

What's that word mean?  Are you inventing another language?  Maybe the judge wants the child to speak coherently.  I think.