Child that hates school.?

Question

my kid is 14 , just started 9th grade and hates it . she wants to do homeschooling but i don't want her to miss out on school events . she said if i don't let her do home schooling she'll just drop out anyway. Is there anything i can do to get her to want to go to school?

Answer 1

o so difficult for you..

Lots of love for her will at least give her the feeling you love her.

I wish you all the strenght you need and your daughter this school year.

Answer 2

You might want to check into this a little deeper, the child is afraid of returning to school, for whatever reason, perhaps the other children have been making fun of her or making her life a living h**l, so rather than have to keep dealing with this constant problem, everyday, the child opts for homeschooling instead.

If I were you, I would head on down to the school and speak to the principal and the staff, including the teachers and ask them some serious, point-to-point questions as to why your child feels this way about going to school, if they can not provide reasonable or acceptable answers to your questions, then bring this matter to the local police department and ask them to investigate this matter further.

All children need to get a proper education if they have any hopes of becoming successful in todays world, and when that child is being denied this basic education by the other students, then the authorities need to step in and find out why and solve the problem.

Maybe there is a class bully doing this, you know the kid that can't add, subtract or even socialize with the other kids so to make up for this, they tend to bully the other kids so it makes them feel really powerful and important, when in reality they are class clowns and idiots.

Check this matter out further and get to the bottom of the problem, and once you have the underlying problem exposed, then find a solution to the problem.  It probably wouldn't hurt to ask the school to conduct their own investigation into this matter, afterall, the schools staff depends upon the taxes you and others are paying every year for their salaries, and if this source of reliable income is threatened, they might come around to your way of thinking.  Also get the State Board of Education involved and they will find out whats going on and make the corrections.

Answer 3

I agree with the first perosn who answered..VERY TRUE!!

Answer 4

Why won't you let her?  She'll still have her friends, who will tell her about school events.  She'll still be able to participate to a certain extent.  Why are you making that the big issue??????

SHE'S BORED AT SCHOOL!!!!  She doesn't care about going to school events, she's BORED AT SCHOOL!!!!!

To drop out before she graduates means a life of dead end jobs until she wises up and gets her GED and some kind of technical or job training.

Answer 5

Maybe try Cyber school? and if she don;t like that make her go to school. If she doest;t go to school that she will miss out on Prom,Boyfriends,taking class trips. School is not a fun place and many kids do not enjoy it but my mom tell me that  People everyday do things that they don;t wanna do but you have to do it anyways.

No high school education means no collage

ask you daughter if there is something in the future she wants to do like a job.

Or if there is something like a bully or people are making fun of her or maybe even a Boy.

Answer 6

First of all, slap the taste out of her mouth. Who the h**l is she to tell you that SHE is making choices under your roof? More importantly, why are you allowing her to do so???

Your kid doesn't have a choice, and if you give her one you're making a grave mistake. You tell her that she's going to go to school as YOU see appropriate, and if she doesn't like it, there are PLENTY of juvenile court judges that will put her in a place where she'll be told when to pee.

Answer 7

give her a good bare bottom spanking

Answer 8

I would try to find out why she hates it so much, is she being bullied, is some teacher hitting on her, you need to find out what is going on.

The last thing you want is a daughter with depression or is cutting herself, or even suicidal.

If things are too tough at school or she is bored by the work, allowing her to work at home would be a great alternative, she could take classes on line.

It doesn't matter WHERE she learns, it only matters that she learns and it is not about power and control either.  It is about doing what is best for your daughter in the circumstances that exist.

Education is not the filling of a pail, it is the lighting of a fire!  She may be able to work extremely well at home as there are fewer distractions and she will also learn to work more independently than if she were in school.

Think about it, don't just say NO, figure out what is best for your daughter.

EDIT: I agree with the answer that says that getting a good education is the only way to be successful in today's world - you only have to look at the abysmal spelling, punctuation and grammar used on this site, to know that the public schools are failing our children at an appaling rate - if a child of 14 stayed home and read books instead of going to school, chances are that they would come out ahead of their peers in every subject.  I left school at 15 to go to work full-time, but I spent at least an hour a day at the public library, where I read a variety of topics - History (mostly the Greeks and the Tudors), Geography (particularly plate tectonics), English Literature (loved Shakespeare), Science (primarily Aviation and Aerodynamics), languages (wanted to teach myself Icelandic!).  

I took night classes for many subjects from dressmaking, typing, basic book-keeping, American Sign Language, Computers.  

Then I started University when my own children were in high school - Psychology, Anthropology, Thanatology, Sociology - the person who asked this question needs to know that the LOVE of learning is what is important, not keeping her daughter in a bricks and mortar building where she probably is not learning as much as she could be if she were not there.