Child visitation "rules"?

Question

Ok...I am having a HUGE problem with my boyfriend's ex-wife INSISTING we follow her schedule. My boyfriend has a 4 year old son..and an insane ex-wife (complete *****) ok..they just got divorced (seperated for 2 yrs) in the agreement they said the visitation was as followed;

Tuesday from 6:00 pm until Wednesday morning no later than 11 am

Every other weekend from Friday 5:00pm-9:00 pm Sunday night...MY problem is----My bf is having to work every weekend for the next few weeks due to Hurricane Fay, it just so happens he is working tomorrow (Saturday from 7am-5:30 pm) meaning I have to watch his son OR pay someone to watch him. I don't understand why in the h**l he can't just pick him up on Saturday morning, the time he spends over here is supposed to be with his father not a baby sitter...I feel bad for him because he's already thrown around by his parents NOW, he's having to be babysat? I have things to do (and I have no kids) this is SO frustrating...I don't know what to do! His ex-wife WILL NOT ALLOW HIM TO PICK HIM UP ON SATURDAY....she is being completely ridiculous! Life happens, would you rather have your son with you or with a babysitter if possible?? He pays child support and follows all the rules but what happens if he tells her he cannot pick him up on the "scheduled time" but the following night, does he HAVE to pick him up? What happens if he doesn't?

Thank you for any comments/opinions, I am at a lost for words and BEYOND aggravated with this woman...

Answer 1

That is your boyfriend's time with his son. It is his responsibility to find childcare or anything else during that time. It's unfair for you to expect the mother to drop plans she may have to take on his share of the responsibility.

Answer 2

talk  boyfriend  ok   i  hope  turn  better

Answer 3

WOW... I'm at a loss for words and BEYOND aggravated with you!

What are you doing with this guy if you won't have anything to do with his child?  You don't care enough about either one of them, that is VERY obvious.  Why are you even there?

Answer 4

the order should be specific on this topic. mine states if the visiting parent cannot pick up at scheduled time then that parent will be responsible to pay for any additional care that may occur with the parent that has the child.

as far as my opinion, you werent in the relationship with your boyfriend and his ex-wife, its best you arent now either.

---youve obviously attached the child to his mother, with WAY too much resentment. might as well break up now ...unless you can get the boyfriend to sign away his rights as you discussed in that previous question.

Answer 5

She sounds like she just wants some free babysitting!   This has nothing to do with you at all!  This visitation thing was so the child would have time with each parent, so you're right! I'd make myself unavailable when your boyfriend isn't around, go shopping or something.  Obviously when he's around the child should spend time with his dad and you knew this when you got into this relationship.  Tell him to keep strict records of times, dates and reasons why he is unable to keep his commitments.  He's not to pay for babysitting for his wife if he is unavailable due to work to see his child.  You are not to replace your boyfriend, make that absolutely clear!  Also have him keep pay-stubs to show he worked on those days. He merely has to call and tell her he isn't available.  I hope all goes well!

Answer 6

Ok, he has stuff to do and you have things to do well she might have things to do as well. How many times did she have other plans, and had to get a babysitter because it was not the dads time.

He doe not have o pick him up but if she is as insane as you say, suck it up and pick him up. So he put in daycare for a day, big deal. He with his dad. He would also be in-contempt of court. I think you are the one that being unreasonable.