Child welfare and denied access what can i do?

Question

my boys have been denied access to see me by their father. i hate him so much for doing this. when i was last allowed to see them for 30 minutes a few days after my 5yrs olds birthday, my 10yr old wouldn''t look or speak to me, he has been told i'm so evil and my ex has lied to make me seem truly evil, saying to my children i wanted to abort them. i've been to court and now its draggin on. i feel like i just want to screeeeeeeeaaaaaaaam. i can't see or speak to them, and i dont want to beg him, to let them see me, he says they don't want to. but i belive they're scared to say otherwise. :(

Answer 1

What did you do wrong that a judge won't let you see your kids?

And how did you lose custody of them in the first place?

OK, First off- if there is no court order or judgement- he has NO rights to those kids.  Go over there and call the police- tell them he is depressed and he is mentally abusing the kids.

Just take them from him.

Answer 2

i do not understand why the court hasnt granted you custody, my partner applied for custody and was told by his solicitor that his ex would have more chance as mothers do. Why dont you ask for joint custody the court prefers it as it is more fair on the children as they get to grow up with both parents. I know that it seems as if it will never end but believe me it will. My partners case went on for 1yr and has just finished i stuck by him the whole time it was hard but all that matters in the end is the childrens happiness.

Answer 3

Hi.  This depends somewhat on the state that you are in.  For example, in Wisconsin, if he has not been ADJUDICATED as the father, he has NO RIGHTS to the kids....  Even if he is on the birth certificate.  The woman above me is correct, you could go to his house (with their birth certificates) call the police, and, tell them that these are your children.  They are currently in a court battle, but, he is holding them without seeing their mother.  IN our state THAT ALONE qualifies as abuse.  It is illegal to withhold the other parent from the children without a court order.  Please call the non-emergency number for the police and tell them your situation.  Don't get bogged down with details.

If that DOESN'T work, the first phone call to an attorney is usually free.  IT is called an initial consultation.  Call one in you area that is GOOD (ask friends who is competent), and, have a list of your questions available.  Ask away.  They will help you to figure out what to do.  

Lastly, please buy a simple notebook and keep track of what you do EVERY DAY to try and see your children, and, please do something every single day.  At some point in the future, you can present this to a judge.  IT will carry a lot of weight in court to see that you tried to contact them every day.  Also, when your children remember the time that you were separated, they will have proof that you did something every day to see them.  You hadn't forgotten about them- or whatever your ex has told them.

Good luck, dear, and, if you need any additional information or help, feel free to drop me a line....