Childhood friend died last night?

Question

One of my childhood friends died last night =[ my whole school is in shock and I'm constantly crying and feel it is unreal. Any advice on this? Thanks =[

Answer 1

Perhaps you could try and get some greavin help when your ready to. Just remember though it can only get better from now on!

Answer 2

Firstly I'm really sorry, losing someone is never easy .What your feeling is normal  we cannot stop ourselves having them, & if we try to, they just build up inside us  untill they either burst out in uncontrolled ways or eat away inside & cause physical or emotional damage -causing an ultimate break down.

just remeber you cannot control what you feel, but you can choose what to do about it. write a poem, plant a tree with a plaqe make a scrap book, celebrate their life get a group of mates together, share the happy times.......

Answer 3

i lost my bf a year ago .. he drowned infront of me 15 april 2007 ... so ino how u feel ... it will be hard ... stay close to your friends and think about all the good tyms youv had ... it does get easyer bt there'll always be things that will remind u of your friend n will upset you ... remember there life nt there death.. x*x

Answer 4

i m really sorry for the loss. its okay to cry .the same thing happened with me too. there was this guy in my school i had a crush on and we were like friends. and when he passed away,it felt so unreal.And i was actually thinking if it really happened...it just didn't sink in you know....and i didn't even cry even when i went to his funeral....but then at the funeral..when i had to say bye to him....i broke down because thats when it actually sink in.and i was just crying and crying the whole day for like 2 days.but then i just sat down with my mom and i would tell her about him and stuff...and spend time with friends.....and that really helped me!

Answer 5

i know how it is. it's extremely hard to lose someone so unexpectedly. my friend killed himself, so i've been there.

the best thing to do is talk. talk to anyone you could- a pet, parents, an aunt/uncle, cousin, other friends, anyone. it will make you feel so much better.

think about the good times. it took me such a long time to do this, but it really helped a lot. it will move you along in the grieving process a lot.

visit her family. i never got the chance to do this because i was close with the person through school, and i never got to meet their famil. but, if you know the family, it's a great idea.

think about your friend, she doesn't want you to be sad. she's probably looking down on you right now and doesn't want you to cry. she wants you to remember the good times.

go to the funeral. this is still something that haunts me everyday. the day of my friend's funeral, there was a huge snowstorm, and the roads were so bad, i just couldn't go. i still regret that everyday of my life.

pray. praying got me through so much during those hard times. i would talk to my friend and say how i angry i was at him for killing himself and how much i missed him. it got me through a lot of hard times.

listen to music. music was my #1 support system after my friend passed away. my favorite song was "one sweet day" by mariah carey and boyz II men. some others were:

"home" by daughtry

"look after you" by the fray

"your guardian angel" by red jumpsuit apparatus

"far away" by nickelback

i'm sure i could think of more if you want, just e-mail me.

have a memorial for her. i was obsessed with my friend who passed away for awhile, and i had the hugest crush on him. one day, he told me his favorite animal was a kangaroo. so, from then on, he was my kangaroo. as of now, i have a roo necklace and a shelf that i have two kangaroos on with his picture next to them.

don't worry about moving on. it will come naturally. you will feel a little better each and everyday. it is going to take lots of time, i know this for a fact, but it will come.

don't worry about forgetting her. this was everyone's #1 fear that i talked to after my friend passed away. you're not going to forget her- i promise. 1 1/2 years later i still think about my friend each and everyday.

Answer 6

mayby talking about it with someone might help. Sorry about your friend

Answer 7

Try and stay strong! my best mate commited suicide on the day of my IGCSE Bio exam. i was devastated. then to make things worse, his funeral was on the day of my maths exam. i couldnt even say gudbye.

I know this wont help much, but everything happens for a reason, dont blame urself for what happend. its not ur fault!!!!! u could not have stoped what happened. u didnt say how ur friend passed away, maybe they are in a better place now. i know my friend is, even though i still wish i had made time to see him and talk to him. he was going to ask me out according to his sister. i cant help but wonder what life would be like if he was still here...

STAY STRONG !!!!!!!!! and talk to people about ur feelings. DO NOT bottle them up inside. its ok to cry

Answer 8

Its OK to cry. When my parents died I sat in tears for hours. Give yourself time, eat whatever you want (I found myself wanting to eat loads, and that's OK) lay around the house for a bit if you can to give yourself time to feel better. Tomorrow, think about if you want to go to the funeral etc. but try and just relax today. Time is the best healer. It will get easier, this isn't permanent, grief is hard, but its something we all go through. Sorry for your loss.

EJ

x*x

Answer 9

They always say "time is the best healer" - it's completely understandable that you're in shock at the moment. Allow yourself to grieve - it's part of your body's way of dealing with such a traumatic situation. Support as many of your friends you know who are going through the same. You're bound to not be the only person feeing this way, talking about your friend will help you remember the good times and help you to deal with something so unexpected.

I am sorry for your loss. You might find you cry often at the moment, gradually this will become less until you find yourself able to talk freely about what has happened as a stronger person. You can overcome this, god bless

Answer 10

I don't know what to say, but things will get better. My brothers friend died on Friday 13th this year and my brother cried - a lot. He even had to take loads of time off work. He would just sit in his room and cry himself to sleep every-night. Then he started getting angry and wouldn't start speaking to anyone. It was after the funeral that he started feeling better. About a week after that, he began to be happy again and now he still misses him loads but he's carrying on his life as normal and having fun again. You will be fine in time.

Answer 11

Im so sorry to hear about your loss, Ive never actually experienced this so im not sure what you would do!!

I do know tho when it comes to grief, dont bottle it in, if you wanna talk about it then talk about it!! maybe write a blog, or talk to a friend or parent!

If your offered the chance of counselling maybe you should take it, it could be very beneficial to you in the long run!

Again im so so sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you get through this ok!

take care

saera x*x

Answer 12

Honey, I went to more funerals in high school than any other time in my life. I went to four funerals in two years. It was hard. Two of my friends will killed by a drunk driver. Another one was killed in a car accident, and sadly two years later, his brother commited suicide. I know it seems like it isn't happening and you feel angry and upset inside. But guess what? It will be okay. Death is a part of life that one day we will all go through, some of us just experience it sooner than later. All you can do is take a deep breath, take some time to remember that person, and move on. I'm sure your friend wouldn't want you to be in constant greif and suffering, they want you to be happy. I will pray for you honey, I know it's rough.

Answer 13

Your constantly crying is normal and is a good thing. People grieve in many ways. It is good to let it out. It's okay to cry, so don't feel weird about it. It may help to sit with some of your friends and talk about the good times you all had together. I'm sorry about your friend, but you will feel better in time.

Answer 14

hey chick i lost my childhood friend when a couple of years ago remember the good times ya shared and the memories ya have of ya friend talk about them like hey are still here it will help and stick by your other friends as you all need each other x x x