Children playing doctot?

Question

i have a 6 yr old step-son and a 3 yr old son back in april my 3 yr old came to me & told me the 6 yr old is touching his privates, we thought nothing of it, thinking it was natural, but it happened a few weeks later, the last few weeks i have heard the 6 yr old telling the 4 yr old to l**k his butt, i also caught the 6 yr old masterbating, is this normal? what needs to be done? the 6 yr old at his mom's sleeps in the same room as his mom & boyfriend could this be the problem? dhs seems to think the sleep arrangement is appropiate. i need help!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

take him to a physiologist that doesn't sound right, he probably is scared to tell anyone he's being touched in a wrong way!

Answer 2

you already called childrens services, you need to tell mom that the 6 year old is harming the 3 year old and cant stay anymore.  some  touching is natural, but i think if the 3 year old is telling he wants something done about it.  usually this doesnt happen from watching, think about it 100 years ago everyone slept in the same room.  I would be the bf is touching the boy. sorry

did you try just talking to the 6 year old?

Answer 3

Talk to his parents about the sleeping arrangements and how easily it is for young children to pick up things they see their parents or gaurdians doing. Since you're not his mother, he may not think he has to obey you. If his parents talk to him and explain what's wrong with this behavior, he may listen. If this still doesn't work, maybe you need to tell your three year old that the things the 6 year old says to do are wrong and don't do them or ask anyone else to do it. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

The masturbation is probably normal, although a little younger than I thought kids started doing that.  However, saying things like "l**k my butt" are completely inappropriate and not normal.  I definitely feel that 6 years old is too old to be sleeping in the same room with mom & bf.  To me, that is actually pretty gross, considering that if even they THINK he is sleeping before they engage in sexual activity, there is a pretty good chance that he isn't.  The child has probably seen them doing things that a kid should not see, and is getting ideas from that.   I mean, if he sees his mom & bf doing something, he may think that all people are supposed to do it, and that it is ok.  i would talk with bio mom and let her know what is happening, and see if she is willing to be cooperative in coming up with the next appropriate action to fix this.  If she isn't, I would definitely not allow the kids to play together alone, only in the prescence of adults.  i would talk with the 6 yr old and explain that it is not ok for him to touch other people's private, or ask them to touch his, just as it's not ok for anyone else to do that to him.   i would also suggest getting some family counseling.

Answer 5

The 6 year old has either seen something or has had something happen to him that was inappropriate. Do what you have to do to protect your son. I'd start by giving him the talk about your body and privacy.

Answer 6

its normal all children go Thur that phase just take then to Sunday school pr something.

Answer 7

I would tell the mom of the behavior, take the child to a counselor, and perhaps seek custody.  I would also have a talk with your son about his privates, and that they should be kept private, not to share with his brother and if brother asks come tell mommy or daddy.  It is not normal for a child that age to be so highly sexualized and whether or not is seeing it, or experiencing some form of abuse at mom's he needs to talk with a counselor, or he will grow up with very confused ideas about s*x.

This is a tough situation.  Good luck.

Answer 8

I don't think this is normal, and should be stopped- all the behaviour you mentioned is questionable