Childrens self esteem?

Question

What Style of dicipline promotes choice and allows children to have responsibility for their decisions?

Answer 1

Let kids work toward solving their own problems. For example, "Skippy has the soccer ball and I want to play with it." Rather than saying "You'll have to wait your turn," ask the child (as young as 4), "Yes, he has the ball and you want to play with it. What should we do about that?" Be a guide sometimes instead of giving direct answers. At appropriate times, answer their questions with another question so they have to think. "I don't know - got any ideas?" works too.

Answer 2

do you think a style matters? after all it is just another label that people use to make things complicated!

offer limited choice and allow children to practice responsibility for their actions/decisions - i do everyday :) it works

i remember the first time i took one of my daughter's grocery shopping. i had observed others with screaming kids wanting this and wanting that and parents getting all stressed out. so I told my daughter that we were going to get food from the shops so we could eat well for the week and i gave her the responsibility of holding the grocery list and telling me what we needed (even though knowing she couldn't read, she made things up, which was fine by me because she experienced the significance of being involved in the decision making process).

As for discipline, i guess i practice my own then my kids get to see how i control myself in situations.  For example - we go shopping and i see things i like, i tell them oh mummy likes that, but mummy knows we need other things first.  Or another example - when i am having fun doing something - i tell them that mummy is having so much fun that i don't want to stop, but then i have to otherwise other things won't get taken care of.  Often i ask what they think,  to get them involved and they giggle and say it's ok mummy you are right!! it's funny and it's great all at the same time :)

I thought about actions and consequences and didn't like the idea - so i adopted actions and re-actions, consequences sound so negative.  Telling my kids to be aware of what they do because it is an action and an action makes a reaction - so make sure the first action is good! - sort of like think before you act.

Love well and care well and children will be great and regard themselves with great inner self worth.  Always learning is earning me and my kids a joyful life.

All the best!

Answer 3

love and logic

i love it

Answer 4

All and more.

I think it might also need to be said that self-sufficiency and self-esteem are not always cause and effect.  Self-sufficiency doesn't always lead to self-esteem.  The preschooler dependency is your opportunity to lead them in a positive direction they may not have discovered on their own.  Don't cast it away.

Answer 5

all

Answer 6

I have a friend of mine who has a discussion once a week where kids are allowed to talk about what they are proud of, what they disliked and what things they would like to change.

During the week, children are asked to put a paper with their name on  the category they want to discuss.(on a bulletin board) On Friday, she picks each piece of paper and guide the students and help them solve the problem or congratulate somebody.

Answer 7

Act normal.

Respect them as individuals

Teach them responsibility

Answer 8

A, B and D for sure. Social interaction is great yes, but the self esteem only comes if the interaction is positive. I grew up with parents who forced me to be around kids who bullied and picked on me. It was awful and I've grown up to be a person with major self image issues.

Make your child feel like he/she is really good at something they are drawn towards naturally, and often they will come to be exceptional at what they do and be inspired to follow their dreams. My mother was very encouraging about my writing, she made me feel like I could be a famous author (haha) and I breezed through English in advanced placement all my young life. I felt like I was talented and it made me try harder. Too bad she didn't make me think I was good at math!

Answer 9

love duh..

Answer 10

questioning is a great way to help children think about their actions and the consequences for their actions. if u question children and prompt children, then they are learning about right and wrong and independance.

Answer 11

Gather the children together and let them come up with classroom rules and consequences. Of course, you must lead them in this. Then, be consistent in keeping to it.  Good luck!

Answer 12

All of the above...plus some...: )

Have the children talk about their feelings.

Have them make choices throughout the day..give them choices that they will not fail at.

Encourage them. Talk about what they are doing.

Talk about the rules ahead of time. If a child does something wrong..use conflict  resolution....