Chivalry is dead and women killed it?

Question

I ask this because it seems you dont have to be a gentleman or even close to one to get a girlfriend or in some eyes just s*x.

Women have lowered there standards and any jerk can get a girl, numerous girls at that and doesnt even need to treat her with respect.

Some women (my personal experience) even give off this awkward look when you do try to be a gentleman.

One girl was even upset I had those kinds of morals.

But anyway is Chivalry becoming an out of date thing.

Also are (some)women to blame for it?

Answer 1

If your mama and daddy raised you right, to have good manners and treat EVERYONE with courtesy and respect, then you will do so throughout your life regardless.  

So what if somebody gives you an awkward look?  That has nothing to do with your core values.  Either your mama raised an animal (no offense to animals) or you just want a scapegoat for your personal failures as a human being.

And in this forum, it's not hard to guess which.

ETA:  I'm talking about the fact that a gentleman will always be a gentleman no matter what, and not blame women because they don't like what he does, so he's going to stop treating them with courtesy.  Why is that so hard to comprehend?  I know it's difficult, but try.

Answer 2

i agree with you. women for some reason were so busy with all of this feminism c**p and trying to be even that they made guys feel like jerks for opening doors for us. now they aren't opening doors, they aren't paying for dinner and in many relationships the woman makes more money and foots more of the household bills. thank you oh great feminists of the past for making gentlemen feel out of place and not needed. there were a few times when i was 9 months pregnant and guys wouldn't even hold a door open for me. and another time when i was visibly pregnant some jackass almost ran me over driving like an idiot through a parking lot. i hope all of those b*tches that burned their bras burn in h**l.

Answer 3

I personally like chivalry, and embrace it, but feel that it should go both ways.  Nobody is to blame for chivalry becoming a thing of the past.  Everybody has their own likes and dislikes when dating, and if one doesn't respond to it, simply move on.  

Answer 4

"Women have lowered there standards and any jerk can get a girl."

Usually, the girls that jerks get are also jerks. No loss to humanity there.

Answer 5

No, it may not be as prevalent, but it isn't dead.  

Answer 6

Wa, Wa, Wa - I'm crying all the way to the bank!  Give me equality over chivalry any day!  I want my equal pay!  That's worth opening my own doors.  

Answer 7

Women are at least partly to blame for it; after all, if every one of us liked it, its health wouldn't be as poor as it is. (It's not completely dead. Yet.) I personally don't find chivalry respectful; it's the same sexism in a nicer package.

Answer 8

I personally like a man with manners, but thats how I was brought up.  Girls and women nowadays are told that they should strive for independence, anything a man can do you can do better type of mindset. Now I can open my own door, pay my own bills but at the end of the day its still nice to have someone be a genleman.  If you have your arms full someone opening the door for you etc. You'de be amazed at how many people will just look at you and do nothing. It seems that men like my father aren't in my age bracket anymore, or is that just me?

Answer 9

wow , things that make you go hmmmm... you are right with what you are saying and its so sad but true . I have been guilty of letting little scummy things men do slide because i know its whats become of our society and it is accepted but it doesnt make it right . But even with that being said when i do meet a gentleman with morals i do know how to appreciate him and enjoy the fresh breath of air that he brings into my life , when he is around :o)  

Answer 10

there are definetly women to blame for it, but also men for giving in to the new standard.

it's kind of like an Adam and Eve thing... Eve takes the apple, Adam takes it because she did.

but there are better girls out there.

i like chivalry. ;)

my guy had better be gentleman. ;)

Answer 11

Look, please don't believe that.  I personally love when a man opens my door or lets me off the elevator first.  And when this happens, I always look them square in the face, smile, bat my eyes and say, "Thank you, sir."

I don't know if women killed chivalry but I can certainly understand why a man wouldn't want to do it anymore.  I mean, Ladies, how many times have you opened doors for other women and they just walked past you without nary so much as a nod?  Girl, I am not the doorman!And it doesn't take much to say thank you.  Rude.

Answer 12

If chivalry is dead it is because respect for women is also dead. A sad state of affairs, really.  

Answer 13

Forget chivalry. It's ridiculous, out dated sexism for Victorian bourgeoisie who wanted to believe they were "better" than they were.

Let's ALL try and make a return to common courtesy. Don't worry about pulling out a chair or paying for dinner, but get of the cell phone and PAY ATTENTION to your date! Men AND women. Treat each other with kindness and respect, I think THAT'S what's sorely lacking in today's society...not "chivalry."

Answer 14

I think with women becoming more independent, chivalry started to decline. The dating scene has also changed over time and those things aren't deemed as necessary as they used to be. Etiquette, politeness, chivalry, etc. has all gone out the window in a lot of ways.

I don't think it is due to women, I just think times have changed, priorities have shifted, values have diminished in a lot of senses.

I still enjoy when a guy opens a door for me or acts like a gentleman. Yes, sometimes it catches me off guard because most don't do that anymore, but I do like it when they do.  

Answer 15

The gentleman I know are still very chivalrous and as a woman I still appreciate chivalrous behavior by anyone.  

Perhaps SOME men have stopped being chivalrous because of their dislike of women and desire to strike back at them for whatever reasons they may personally have.