Christian Girls: ...What would you do if...?

Question

you met this guy at the Baptist Student Ministry, which is a college religous group/club that is on your college campus....

Let's say that you thought he was really cute, and you started to like him. Then, he asks you out on a date. So...you both date each other for a couple of months, and then he tells you, "Hey, I think you should know that I am not a Christian. I want to continue dating you because I really like you."

Christian girls who are in college...what would you do? Would you continue dating the guy? Would you ask the guy why he does not believe in God, and try to convert him? Or would you break up with him?

Answer 1

I am not a college aged girl, I'm a 46 yr old woman and it's been my experience that if a guy had no problem using a lie to start the relationship - what's to say he won't keep it up? This happened to me and before I realized it I had married the man. People who lie to control/manipulate are called pathological liars.  Be careful!

Answer 2

well if you believe in the Bible the answer is clearly stated "be ye not unequally yoked" God said that for a reason and this guy will just drag you down if you continue in a relationship...I'm not saying to separate all ties with him but to continue dating would not be healthy for you and your Christian walk

Answer 3

Just because he isnt christain doesnt mean he doesnt belive in god : ] if he did lie did he ever really tell you that he was a christain.

if he wasnt really a bad guy i guess you dont gotta break up but if he was a regular lier then it would probebly be best to .

Answer 4

I can tell you what she said ;)

Answer 5

I'll be pretty upset that he lied., but i'll be alright with it.  

Answer 6

I'd break up with him. Why did he wait 2 months before telling you that he wasn't a christian? No need to pray about the situation or to try to convert him; he'll do it just to please you.  

Answer 7

Convert 'im.

Answer 8

I went on a date with this religious girl once - I had to let her go because her literal beliefs in the bible - i don't keep ignorant people like that around me - i find that behavior unproductive and silly.

Answer 9

Wow. This is kind of weird. It's a good thing he told you the truth, but he shouldn't of been at a Christian Club pretending to be Christian...I wouldn't try and convert him. That never really works, and it'll just be a bone of contention with you. If you think you can stand it, let him just be not Christian. You think you can't stand dating someone with opposing views, dump him.  

Answer 10

if u try to convert him it seems that u dun respect his belief....what has dating a person have to do with his or her religion what if u get married to him n then he tells u lik after 15 years of marriage will u divorce him? if u wanna change a person u love might as well date urself

Answer 11

I would test the relationship out but I'm telling you right now that it probably would not work just for the simple fact that he lied to me.

Answer 12

Religion is fine, provided it is not the sole aspect of your life. If everything in your life depends on religion, you need to reevaluate your existence and choices.

The human on the other end of the bench, or on the other end of the world, should mean more to you than your faith, provided that human allows you to believe what you want. Humanity is here, and you are a part of it. God is not here, and does not effect you until after you die, even if you ARE a believer.

If he's a nice guy, tell him he's an idiot for lying to you, but you'll let him make it up to you. Don't allow your religion and afterlife to blind you to possible happiness in this life.

Atheistically yours,

JM Gendron.

Answer 13

Withholding information is not lying.

He was upfront with you when he realized it was important to you.

but you have to decide for yourself if you like him enough to go further

There are practical guides to find out whether you are in love or not.

Like, do you think about him/her all the time?  When you dress are you dressing for him/her?  Do you put their feelings and needs above your own?

questions like this and more need to be asked and answered before you make any life-changing decisions of any sort.

It helps to have the same beliefs, but even two people who are in the same religion will have two different ways and views about it, and sometimes they will not agree to the point where the marriage is a living h**l.

Change can only happen with you.  It is better to know this now.  You cannot change other people.  The only person that you have any power or control over is yourself.

Answer 14

I would still date him, but would ask him not to think badly because of my religion.  I would ask him to still accept me and i would let him know that i will still love him as long as he does respect me.

hope i helped