Christian girl leading on non-christian boy.?

Question

I'm in high school, and there's this cute boy that just joined our school. He added me on myspace, and it just seemed like we "clicked" from the moment we talked, however, we didnt really talk at school- but the conversations that we have online are extremely deep!

anyways soo the other day, I sat with him at lunch, and we talked and had lots of fun, [[btw. there were other ppl on the table]

hes cute, funny. but however, hes not a christian, and i am, so basically i am in a dilemma, I talk to him on myspace, and I am usually the one starting the conversation, and I was the one that told him to sit with me during lunch, and I am the one who keeps this going, even though i know better cus hes not a christian.

any help- id appreciate some christian advice on thsi =] thanks.

Answer 1

Hmm...I have the same dilemma sometimes too....

BUT!! If you go to a youth group, then maybe you can ask him if he wants to come and hang out sometime there. If he doesn't feel comfort with it, then don't push it on him.

OR!! I would probably talk about things that go on at your church (i.e. "One Sunday, our pastor was telling the funniest joke, and then someone laughed so hard they fell off their chair.")<that was kinda dumb, but I think you get the point...

If he is strongly against the Christian belief, I would ask why and get some background on his life.

If he is open, but just not sure, then you can talk about it with him if he'd like.

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Answer 2

If you are basing people on what they believe even though they sound to have an awesome personality then you need a reality check!

Answer 3

does it really matter? I'm christian and wouldn't care if i went out with a non-christian... or were friends with one

Answer 4

You are in high school.  This is the time of your life when you should be meeting lots of people of all types  regardless of what religion they are.  I can understand that your religion is important, but unless this is a really serious relationship that is going to end in marriage, I wouldn't let it bother you too much.  This friendship is new and there are no commitments so why put limitations on it so soon,

Answer 5

don't be shallow. Just because he does not believe the same stuff you do your going to let that effect your judgment of him?

Come on. Obviously he thinks your a great person. Or hes leading you on... but most likely you guys are just clicking. Try it out. The only thing that should turn you away from him is if he disrespects you in anyway.  

Answer 6

Im a Christian and I honestly wouldn't not date someone just because they do not have the same religion as me.  Everyone is entitled to their own beiefs

Answer 7

From personal experience, I would stay away from dating a non-christian.  It had a really negative effect on me- but this was probably because of the guy.  

Not only was he a non-christian- but an atheist as well.  He did not respect my relationship with God (though he said he did), and worse, his friends would make bad remarks.  

So, I say just be careful.  If you think this will hinder your relationship with God, don't do it.  This is not to say, that you cannot be friends for him, and pray for him.  However, if you have a strong faith, and if he respects your christian faith... you could eventually lead him to Christ one day.

The main thing is not to hinder your own relationship with God.  Pray about it- take time developing a friendship with this guy.  If you feel that he will not be a good influence on you, stay away.  It really affected me in a negative way.

(I dated this guy when I was high school, so I know what you're going through).

: )

Answer 8

If he is not Christian does that mean he doesn't have a spiritual background?  Is he Jewish or Catholic?  Or is he nothing?  

When you are "myspacing" with him he need to be clear about your beliefs.  If you are expecting and wanting to marry a Christian, start  dating Christians.  You have goals, expectations, and a family behind you.  But they would be very disappointed if you start dating and then have a relationship with a non-christian.  Jesus is your Savior and you need to live up to the standards set up for you in the Bible.  

Be upfront with him.  Let him know what your parents expect.  

Be friends but don't start a relationship with him if it is important for you to meet and marry a Christian.  Your choices start now.

Answer 9

This is your chance to share your faith with your friend.  You know Jesus didn't "hang out" with the Christians, he  hung out with the people who needed to hear his word to be saved.  Maybe God has put this boy in your life to give you a chance to witness to him and to be a great example of a christian.  Good luck and God bless.

Answer 10

who cares if hes christian or not..

Answer 11

well i know mine wont be the popular answer, but God says do not be unequally yoked. meaning christians should marry christians, which would mean dating as well because thats what leads to marriage. Plus, it does not sound like he is that interested in "REAL" life but more so when just talking on the computer. i've told people before, a guy will make time for a girl he is interested in, without a doubt, even if its blowing his friends off to be with her. thats just the way guys are. so i'd just look elsewhere because there are too many red flags already.

Answer 12

well i dont think you should judge him because he isn't christian,

he might actually have the same values as you

But since you have deep conversations you should bring up religon

Answer 13

Yes obviously need to be a Cristian , but not always can be.

Just think that you can make him cristian and to be more closer to God.

Answer 14

The Bible says Christians should be yoked to fellow believers.

Answer 15

personally, i know you really and truly like the boy a lot. however, the bible says to not be unequaly yoked. While it may be super hard to not date him, i wouldn't. Of course, don't just leave him and never talk to him again, just be friends. A really close guy friend is a necessity.

Answer 16

WELL ITS ALL RIGHT JUST TELL HIM YOUR CRISTIAN

Answer 17

Well just cuz he isn't a christian doesnt mean you can't help lead him to christ. But i don't think it's right that you are the only one making the effort. I say stop tlk-n 2 him for awhile, if he doesnt try to conversate with you then he must not be that intersted.

Answer 18

I know how you feel because i use to feel the same about this guy, the only difference is that i had a relationship before i got saved, but my best advice is to not go thru the emotions don't follow your heart because your heart will deceive you, If you call yourself a follower for christ you must go for what you know it's right.. just be patient and believe that God has a Godly man out there for you on his timing. Remember God's timing is perfect... And another, maybe your going tru a test?? Think about it!  

Answer 19

so what if he's not christian

Answer 20

So, let me explain my dilemma also. I'm a non-religious person and my girlfriend is a baptist. Also her dad is the preacher. He hates me. What im getting at is, it shouldn't matter what religion someone is because in the end its just a believe anyway. I mean its like saying " im not going to date you because you like McCain over Obama." thats just stupid