Christians Is It Really Healthy To Wait Until Marriage?

Question

Why are you brainwashed into thinking this? How is it wrong to not have a girlfriend or boyfriend or too before getting married? Or even having s*x with the partner to make sure you are really compatible?

Is s*x really that important to any Christians at all? What if you were married and you found out your husband or wife is horrible in bed?

Answer 1

In the Bible there was never mention of weddings and marriage licenses.  They did have feasts to celebrate the union.  The parents approval and being faithful and a good wife and husband who are good to each other were good enough.  By the way, humans are not cars and to sample people was not approved.  also if a spouse leads a life of inequity the other can leave and it is not considered adultery.  It is adultery if a spouse leaves just because one is merely tired of the other.

Answer 2

Whats it to you if people wait.

Its their life and their choice.

Worry about your own life and dont judge or criticize others for what they believe in.

By the way I'm not a christian and i didnt wait for marriage to have s*x but i dont judge people who do cause its none of my business.

Answer 3

i'm not a Christian, but this was my response for someone's answer that posted a question about s*x before marriage:

i believe that u should know what ur getting into beforehand. s*x is a big part of marriage, and if it's not all that and doesn't satisfy u after ur married, chances are ur going to stray. i also believe that later down the line, u will get a little curious as to what it would be like with someone else. i know a lot of ppl who weren't ready to commit to the person they lost their virginity to because they wanted to experience being with other ppl. this will also lead to infidelity in the marriage (curiosity).

*i was my husbands 1st, we then broke up (long story but not because we wanted to & he had a few partners (3-4) before we got back together 2 1/2 years later). i was kind of glad though because if we would of stayed together from then until now, i would always wonder if he was curious and may want to cheat on me just to see what it would be like, but at least this way, he knows, and i'm not worried cuz he isn't going anywhere!* oh and yes i had him go get tested when we got back together, LOL.

Answer 4

My decision to wait did not have anything to do with being a "Christian". I am not going to let anyone tell me what to do. It was my own morals that I chose to wait till marriage. And it's also none of your business who choses to wait and who choses not to. My life doesn't revolve around s*x. I waited until I was 31. Do I regret it? No I have been happily married for 13 years. Take that to the bank.  

Answer 5

I was a virgin when I married my first husband. We were not sexually compatible and it made for a miserable marriage.

My 2nd husband and I are on the same wave-length and we've been married 15 years. s*x is still good even after all these years.

I know many think it's important to wait and for some, that works. I just know it didn't work for me.

Answer 6

I say test drive. s*x is an important part of marriage and i could not handle being sexually unhappy my whole life. i was raised Mormon but i became a non-Mormon at the age of 15. i don't agree with alot of it and the whole waiting is one of them. my parents fell victim to this. my mother hates s*x, she said her self many times it is a chore and i think she is what you call frigid. well my dad was a horn dog. he liked p**n and had had girl friends outside of the marriage. it lasted 10 unhappy years and 4 children (the church does not believe in divorce either) It effected the whole family. if the parents are unhappy the children are unhappy and well, life becomes a living h**l.

So i say drive the car. take it home for while and see if the paint chips once the new car smell wears off and if you still love the car after the new car smell wears off and it does not start the first time every morning. buy the car pay it off and keep driving it. if you make it past the new car smell and the slow starts in the morning you will most likely love it even when the paint fades, it Haas some dings in it and is even slower to start in the morning

Answer 7

Healthy ?????? how can avoiding all the STD's and aids be unhealthy????

Depending on your moral (or immoral ) code, its not going to physically hurt ,

it gives you a intimacy only your spouse and you share.

I rarely see couples who have waited in marriage counseling !

Answer 8

if you are a virgin and your new spouse is a virgin then you would not know that your partner is bad in bed.

the high divorce rate has more to do with people having s*x before marriage..  a much higher percentage of people stay married if they were virgins before marriage..  

Answer 9

Well they are out of touch but I don't think this has anything to do with the high divorce rate s the more conservative they are (of which virginity until marriage) also means that they will remain in a marriage no matter how awful it is.

The marriage is sacred (to them) and that means slogging it out.

I think the virginity has nothing to do with faith though but with possessiveness. The you are mine, and mine only attitude.

Besides being sexually active before marriage does not equate to sleeping with every other person in town as these people tend to indicate

Answer 10

Ah! What a question?

If you cannot wait, do this if you partner is ready to get ****** before marriage. Why are you generalising the issue.

You become first man to change this thinking.