Client / friend passed away, why do I keep thinking about the Will?

Question

Today is a sad day, one of my elderly clients passed away which also resulted in her elderly dog being put to sleep, as these were her wishes. As a professional dog walker it is a double whammy to loose the little dog who I adored and the client who was also a good friend to me. I would see the both of them every day for the past two years.

Why do I keep wondering about her will?? I am really bothered by this. I have no reason at all to expect anything to be left to me, and I fully expect a large amount of her estate to go to animal charities.

Am I a bad person to keep thinking about her Will?? Why would I keep thinking about it? Is this a normal reaction when someone passes away??

Answer 1

you want some of the money. its only natural. i however, would be thinking about the person as opposed to the money.

Answer 2

Ooops...misread !

I think it is normal for you to think about her will because you kind of wonder whether you were that important to her for her to leave something valuable for you.

Answer 3

You probably want to know if she felt you were important to her. It is your inclusion in the Will, not what you get out of it, that you are interested in.

Answer 4

You are thinking about the will because you are hopeful that your friend and client left you something.  You probably could use the money and make a better life for yourself since dog-walking does'nt pay very much.

You feel deserving too.  Most people don't expect anything from someone else (I think not) when they die, because the person they know dont have much to start with anyhow.

I suppose that if you would have communicated with the lady about possibly leaving you something if she passed on might have helped you get something, but it is too late now.  Some people find it an insult for someone to give them something.

Anyhow, if you have something coming to you, they will contact you.   For your sake, I hope you are included in the Will.  But dont count on it.  Cheer up!

Answer 5

You are upset about it you can tell. The will thing just means you are curious. I'm not you but maybe you are hoping that his/hers belongings are going to the right people and not the wrong for the one you have lost benefits. You are not a bad person you are genuinely upset and worried.

Answer 6

I think you are looking for validation that you meant as much to your client as she obviously meant to you. I lost someone recently and it meant the world yesterday when I went to his gravesite, that the momento that I had left earlier, was still there and prominently displayed. It's hard when someone is no longer here to confirm our feelings.

Answer 7

No. My guess is you felt close to this person and it's not the money you're worried about, it's that being included in it would make you feel like you were an important part in her life. I think you want to feel close to her again, and you want her to have thought of you as a close friend.

Hope I helped.

EDIT: I just saw your edit after this post. That's exactly what i'm trying to say :)

Answer 8

id probably do the same