Clues leading up to me being molested when i was younger but how can i know for sure?

Question

i was phsyically and mentally abused by my stepfather. for the longest time i thought he did more..and over the years "clues" to something happening keep coming out such as his hands-anytime i see them i freeze in horror almost. but is it really possible for someone to not clearly remember how and when it happened?

Answer 1

Absolutely... I promise you when your brain is ready to release this information, it will. Be prepared this could be quite frightening and disturbing. Just remember what ever happened to you as a child is not your fault, you were a child and you could not stop a grown persons behavior. I`m so sorry this happened to you. You`ll be able to get through this horrible trauma. I promise, please see a counselor or another mental health professional to help you through this process of being prepared and getting through the recovery of surviving the worst abuse a person could ever go through...

Answer 2

Yes sweetheart, it is possible that more may have happened. People tend to (especially children) black things out for coping. Years later things are remembered.

I really can't recommend enough that you go to a counselor that specializes in child abuse. There you can safely talk about it and sort it all out so that you can deal with it.

I wish you luck.  

Answer 3

Yes, it's possible and you are far from alone.  How much he did and how much you will remember are unknowns for now.  I too cannot over suggest the value of talking with a therapist.  An experienced therapist who is a good fit for you can help you with the present, reconciling your past, and growing into the full person you are meant to be.

Answer 4

It is possible, however I would be careful about "forcing" memories, because it is a horrible thing to deal with and come to terms with.  Allow your memories to come naturally and see if you can find some collaborating evidence from other family members.  

The only reason I caution you is because memories that are not true or those that are "suggested" can ruin your life.  For example, if a therapist or friend tells you that you show signs of being sexually abused and it leads you to search for memories, which might not be true, it can cause so much harm to you trying to deal with them.

Most people I know can recall some aspect of that type of abuse.  And most have some collaborating evidence.  They may not remember everything, but they recall enough to not doubt that it happened.

That is not to say that "forgetting" is not possible, but it requires a much greater "caution" so that you don't search and find something that is not true and causes you tremendous pain.

Answer 5

most diffenately I don't remember most of my childhood   the brain can only deal with so much at that age so it develops its own coping mechanisms including blocking things out