Cn we still be friends,without him thinkin other wise?

Question

so in middle school i dated my x bf for a day n broke up, then we got back together for about two weeks...i wasn't ready for no relationship so the whole thing was awkward. it been about three years since i seen him, but last friday he came up to me at the mall..i was soo surprise n shy that i didn't know wat to say,,plus my mom was right there...i forgot about him since i left middle school but lately thats wat i found myself doing when i think about relationships...i really want to start talking to him again as friends, because he was a cool person back then but i dnt want to think that i want to get back together..i tried looking for him on my space n facebook but i cnt find him..i dnt wanna ask my old friend either(they both go to the same school, i just just got her cell number so we haven't talk since middleschooll either) because i dnt want her to think that i want to get with him either....how do i get in contact with him again or how cn i ask my friend about him with out sending the wrong signs

Answer 1

just say "hey its been so long! i havent seen you since middle school! catch me up, how have you been?"

and just dont send any flirty signals. just keep it general and friendly and chances are since its been so long, he'll wanna be just friends with you too

good luck!!

Answer 2

say to your friend

"i saw [his name] the other day and i wanted to talk to him again ya know, whats his number i wanted to catch up"

if she isnt an IDIOT i think she will know you mean as friends