Co Workers bringing a guest?

Question

Me and my future hubby work part time at a grocery store for a second job. We have both been there a while so we now most everyone there. we wanted to invite about 25 people from there to the wedding but we wanted to know if we could get away with not having them bring a guest. All the people we would invite hang out together and have known eachother for at least 2 years {most more then that.} and none of them live with someone or are engaged or are even in a serious realtionship {except one that is married but we will of course invite her husband.} just want some opppions on if you think its ok...

thanks!

Answer 1

It depends on if they are single or not. If they aren't single, then I wouldn't recommend this. It is rude to exclude significant others, though you might want to come up with a timeline, like dating 6 months or more, etc.

A coworker did this and lots of people were upset that she didn't invite their families or partners.

Edit: Sorry, I did read it, but I was unclear because I wasn't sure what you meant by "serious relationship." Some people think 3 months of dating is serious whereas for others it might be a year.

Answer 2

I think you have the right idea. In your situation I would just invite your actual work colleagues, not extra guests, with the exception of the one that is married. Inviting people who you don't really know incurs extra costs, and it's your special day and people should accept your decisions. If I was one of your work colleagues, I wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to bring a guest. Good luck, and hope your wedding day goes perfect!

Answer 3

if they are married a guest is a must

if they are in a serious relationship, engaged or living together a guest is a must

if they are single its not needed

Answer 4

If they're not in a serious relationship, it's O.K. to invite them as singles. Seat them all together and they should be fine.

But if they're married, engaged, living with a partner or dating long-term, it's proper to invite their partner (goes for both same-s*x and heterosexual couples).

Answer 5

Sounds fine to me. Explain to everyone, without making a big deal out of it, why you aren't having them bring guests. Just say you couldn't afford for everyone to come if they brought guests and increased it from 25 to 50.

Answer 6

Sure why not, if the majority of the people are single. I don't see anything wrong with that. It is your wedding, and I believe they will all have a great time because they all know each other.

Answer 7

If it were one or two, I would say invite a guest because they may not know anyone at the wedding and it'll be boring for them.

But if its 25, they all know each other, and all get along then they should be fine for a few hours without a date.

Answer 8

Yes, that is completely fine. You are never "required" to let your guests bring guests, although if they are married or engaged themselves, it's a little rude not invite the significant other. But in your case, there's no reason to invite any random "plus ones" - just the one coworker's husband.

Answer 9

I think that most of them would prefer to come without a guest. Sometimes guests in situations like that feel uncomfortable. Dont include "and Guest" on their invites and be sure to mention to a small hand full of your co-workers that many co-workers are invited and thats why you didnt include guests. Word will get around without having something tacky on their invite saying "please no guest". They will understand and be thrilled to hang out with co-workers outside of work.

Answer 10

I think co-workers can be invited without guests.

I'm of the opinion that you should be allowed to break etiquette and not invite significant others when it comes to co-workers.  Its not like SO's or Spouses will know each other and if you seat all your co-workers together they will know someone else attending.  I wish they'd re-write etiquette books on this subject.

Answer 11

It's ok to invite them with letting them bring a guest. If you invited me and I couldn't bring a guest I would be okay.

Answer 12

It is rude to not at least offer for them to bring a guest.  The problem that you are going to have if you do this is that they are going to bring a guest anyway because they are not going to realize that you did not say "and guest"  They might bring a guest anyway because it is usually expected that you always bring a date to a wedding and who wants to go stag to a wedding?   Do yourself a favor and don't invite anyone from the grocery store.  Never invite contingent guests meanuing if you invite X you have to invite Y and maybe Z.  Don't invite anyone so that no one's feelings get hurt and just exlain that you are having a small family wedding with only close personal family friends because you are on a budget.  These people at the grocery store are not your good friends.  You are only friendly with them because you work there and it is not even your real job.

Answer 13

Honestly, I didn't invite anyone plus guest. I did invite the partners of people though, so I guess that could be a problem for you.

Do you really want to invite all 25? If you're not planning a big wedding, that will make a big portion of the guest list as workmates.