Co-sleeping moms: What do you do with baby...?

Question

Well, my daughter, 14 months, likes to go to sleep laying next to me, after she falls asleep I can leave her. But, she rolls a lot. Normally me or her dad will lay in bed with her when she's sleeping, but it gets boring laying there for hours alone watching TV. ha. We have moved her into a crib, next to my bed with the side down that I put her into when she wakes up after I go to bed, because she likes her space now and it is to crowded in bed for her now, I guess. I don't know what all I said. ha. I am just typing stuff now..

Anyways, do you go to sleep right after your baby goes to bed?

Just leave baby on bed and go in frequently to check on him/her?

Or, what do you do?

Putting bed against wall isn't an option right now.. my room is way to small and it would take a lot of rearranging furniture to get bed against wall. Putting mattress on floor won't work because she goes into crib after she wakes up.

BTW - Bedtime for her is 9 and that is to early for me to go to bed. lol

Answer 1

OMG I HAVE THIS SAME PROBLEM WITH MY 18 MONTH OLD EVEN DOWN TO THE PART WHERE THERE NOT ANOTHER ROOM FOR HIM TO SLEEP IN. I LAY WITH HIM IN MY BED TILL HE GOES TO SLEEP AND THEN I PUT HIM IN HIS TODDLER BED WHICH IN ABOUT FOOT AWAY FROM BED LOL...THEN HOOK UP HIS BABY MONITOR AND THEN I CHECK ON HIM THREW OUT THE NIGHT TILL I AM READY FOR BED!.....ITS NICE TO KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT IS PRO CO-SLEEPING!!!

Answer 2

I was about to say put the bed against a wall....LOL.

My bed is against one wall, and that is the side she sleeps on. My daughter falls asleep anytime between 7-9 each night, and there is no way I could fall asleep then.

After she falls asleep, I just place a baby monitor directly on the bed beside her, and sneak away. And anytime I hear her stirring around in the bedroom, I peak in on her.

It's worked great so far, and I hope to do the same thing when she transitions to a toddler bed here in a few months.

Answer 3

My bay co sleep too with me and my husband and i agree it can get very crowded. we did the same thing you did with the crib (so thanks for letting me know we aren't the only ones) and i put the baby in it when i am ready to go to bed (it's just easier for me that way). I don't want to leave him alone for too long, and he will NOT be sleeping in his own room anytime soon (it isn't ready yet, and i feel like he's to young to be sleeping in a room alone, AND i'm not ready for him to leave our room yet, i'd miss him waaaaaaaaaaay too much). anyway, maybe if your baby sees you going to sleep, she will follow suit (though she's a lot older than mine, so I don't know how likely that is).  

Answer 4

My daughter is just about 8 months and sleeps in her crib right next to my bed like a co-sleeper almost.  I love having her in there.

She goes to sleep at about 6:30 or 7 and I just lay her down and put the baby monitor on.  I stay in the living room/kitchen till about 10 when I go to bed...I have to say though that I check on her about 3 or 4 times within that 2-3 hours I'm not in there ( LOL, I know I'm a little paranoid but I relax a lot better knowing she's safe and okay ).

I think it's great that you do this.

Can you just put the side rail up when your leave the room so the crib walls are all high and she can't climb out?  That way it's safe.

Your daughters picture in your avatar is so darn cute BTW!!!!!

Answer 5

you can get a bed rail.  

Answer 6

Maybe you should put her in the crib every time she is sleeping.  Although laying next to her is nice for you, you might be starting something you don't want to finish.  She should be out of your bed and out of your room by now so she has good sleeping habits.

Answer 7

I just moved my son into his bed at 20 months...but i sleep in there now after a few more weeks i will try my room until he wakes but anyway.

I have the sides on the bed that fold up and I kept those on my bed so he did not roll out.

I have a 6 year old and could not just stay in there with him.  Place a baby monitor on the bed away from baby so if they move a lot you will hear the rustling over the monitor and normally a baby will make noises or fuss before they actually wake up.  This will give you time to get in there before your daughter is A) awake or B) falling off the bed.

Good luck, been through this twice  

Answer 8

Don't listen to the ones that say she should be out of your room.  Your baby is fine- and you know that :)

Our 13 month old sleeps in our bed.  He typically goes to bed when we do (around 11- he's a night owl- if we put him down earlier, he'll only take a nap).  On the nights that he falls asleep before us, we just put him in bed.  He does roll around, but since he was around 10 months, we showed him how to get off the bed feet first.  So if he does wake up, he knows how to get off the bed.  As for rolling while sleeping- we put the monitor right next to him, so if he moves- we hear it.  If there is excessive movement, we go in and check on him.  Typically if he's moving around a lot- he's awake.

Answer 9

I must have been a horrible mother!  My daughter never slept in bed with my husband and I and we did not keep her in our bedroom when she was a newborn or young baby.  She always slept in her own room.  So, that being said.  When she would go to bed, my hubby and I would sit and watch TV or just relax and go to bed when we went to bed.  Our house was pretty small, so we could hear our daughter if she got fussy.  So you don't have problems later, I would put her to sleep in her crib when naptime comes.  If you still want to keep her in your bed for naps, I suggest putting pillows around the outside of the bed in case she takes a dive out of bed.  We did that with our daughter when she first went into her big girl bed.  We would find her sleeping on the pillows every once in awhile!  She is old enough to turn her head or roll over, so there is not chance of her suffocating in the pillows.  

Answer 10

there is a side rail u can b uy if u r concerned about her falling out of bed.  i would get one of those if she sleeps in the big bed alone or put her in crib when u leave the room.  at this age if ur using the rails or crib u shouldnt need to check on her much.

Answer 11

I talked to my son's ped about this long ago when his crib was recalled and she gave me the idea of using his pack and play by my bed. When he goes to sleep I put him in there, then when Im ready I go to sleep in my bed. When he wakes up to nurse I nurse him and let him stay in bed with me for the rest of the night.

Some people don't agree with cosleeping, its a good thing he's mine huh? lol

Answer 12

Some women roll up blankets or put body pillows under the fitted sheet like "bumpers".  To make this easiest put a fitted sheet, then the rolls, then another fitted sheet so when you take the bumpers out you aren't messing with getting the fitted sheet back on.

Is the crib mattress level with the bed mattress?  That's how I have my sidecar set up (admittedly often I sleep in the crib).  You could snuggle her in the crib then tie a mesh bumper style fabric over the opening.

I know you don't want her out of your room, but little tikes makes some pretty cute toddler beds that take a twin sized mattress and have sides.  I tried moving my toddler into one before the baby came.  He naps in there (generally) so the baby can nap in the big bed (because the 14 year old little tikes bed I have has gaps so  not good for a newborn -but now that the "baby" is bigger he can sleep there.  I think this problem is likely resolved in the new models).  Last night the baby wouldn't sleep in our bed, only the couch.  So I got baby to sleep on the couch and snuck off to the toddler bed because my toddler had turned 90 degrees and there was no room in my bed.  I got up once to nurse the baby to sleep on the couch, but the toddler got up once came into his room nursed and then said "bye bye big bed" and went back to sleep with daddy.  So I'm not suggesting you kick her out totally but sometimes having more than one adult sized bed is a plus.

Otherwise you could put a mattress on the floor of your room/baby room/main floor and try that.  You may be able to slide the mattress under your bed when not in use.  Or you *could* get a trundle bed.

Just keep working on it, you'll find a way!