Cold sore and herpes question...?

Question

When I was younger, I used to get cold sores (probably once a year since I was 10ish). I stopped getting them once I hit 13 and haven't had one since. Well, a week ago, I gave my boyfriend oral s*x *unprotected*. Four days ago, I gave him a hand job and let him come in my mouth (so his p***s touched my mouth obviously). 2 days after I gave him a hand job, I got a tingly feeling in the corner of my lip and knew that I was getting a cold sore. It never fully broke out, but I got the tingly feeling for a day. Well, today, my boyfriend tells me that he has a cold sore on the corner of his lip. He has never had a cold sore before, so I know it has to be from me, especially since I still kissed him when I felt the tingly-ness going on. (Stupid I know). Is there a high chance that he got genital herpes when I gave him a bj a week before I had the tingles? What about when his p***s was in my mouth for seconds 2 days before the tingles? I am scared to death! I love him with all of my heart and feel ashamed for giving him HSV I already, and would feel even worse if he got HSV 2 because of me. I've spent all of today bawling my eyes out, thinking and fearing the worse. If someone comes in contact with herpes, do they automatically get it? Or is there like a percentage that get it? Also, if it took him only 2 days to develop a cold sore, if he had genital herpes, wouldnt it show up soon? I know that some people with genital herpes never show symptoms, but still. Oh, and I heard that if you are diagnosed with HSV I on your mouth, then there is a slim chance that you can get HSV I on your genitals. Is this true? Is there a test that we can take to see what kind of herpes we have? I don't want to take a blood test because mine will come up positive b/c of my oral herpes, but wont tell me if I have it in the genitals. Is there a test that specifically tests to see if herpes is in the genitals? I'm sorry for all of the questions, but I am a wreck! I am going to the gyn on Thursday (to get every STD test but HERPES!! Go figure), so I will ask him too. But, I just want to hear some of your answers. Thanks! :)

Answer 1

Ok for starters if you have HSV1 it will not turn into hvs2, you can however get hvs1 on your genetils or  the other way around.

You can get a type specific blood test that will tell u wether what u have is hsv1 or hsv2, or u can wait for an outbreak and get a type specific swab done, this must be done in the first 3 days of an outbreak to be accurate.

The chances of someone getting herpes without being on suppressive therapy is about 8% over the course of a year doing nothing but avoiding contact during an outbreak, it cuts in half if u are on suppressive therapy.

It is VERY hard for u to reinfect yourself anwhere else now that u have herpes, you should still wash your hands after u touch a coldsore but it is very hard like I said.

Now that your Bf has HVS1 your guys can pretty much not worry about reinfecting each other, it's pretty hard to do, although again u should not be touching active outbreaks for safety sake, u don't really have to worry about the tingly stage so much.

Herpes does not travel around through your blood stream if it ison your mouth/face it will not travel down to your v****a.

The first year is the worst for everyone, after that outbreaks often lesson as the years pass ( as u have exspeirienced ), talk to your BF about seeing his dr, he can get meds that he can take when an outbreak starts and it will generally stop the outbreaks, acyclovir is a generic he can take, it's on wal-marts $4 list, and generally doesn't cost more than $15 anywhere u buy it.

Also u can check out webmd's genetal herpes message board, a dr runs the board and has a link to " the herpes handbook ."

Answer 2

It's very possible that you passed it on to his genitalia. What you probably heard was that if someone has HSV2, it's hard to pass it on to someones mouth, because you can definitely pass it from the mouth to the genitals. He now has HSV1, but hasn't shown any symptoms on his genitals. Also, he could just not get it there. My ex and I had unprotected s*x all the time and even though I have genital herpes, he never contracted it. Even when he would perform oral s*x he was fine.

So it is possible he is safe below the belt, but it's possible he's not. It is also possible to spread the virus at anytime even when you aren't having an outbreak and considering you had the tingling feeling, an outbreak was definitely in the works which ups the chances. Does he know about the herpes thing with you? If not, tell him now so he won't have all these surprises later.