College is starting and Im afriad hes going to stray!!!?

Question

My boyfriend that i met in june is going back to college and im insecure that he may find someone at school as thats where we initially met and where he initially piked me up.We go to the same school, and we will most likely be spending alot of time together there, however im still nervous that hes going to be flirting with other women when im not around. We are both insecure of the same thing, we are both jealous, and we are both falling madly in love. And we are both extremely attractive. I know he truely is falling in love with me its the most real thing ive ever felt, but i dont want to be jealous all the time i just want school to start already so i can see how he acts!!

he said would never cheat--and i beleive him but still my jealousy exists and i dont know what to do about it.

Answer 1

why r u so insecure...

its like u don't hav faith in him.....

if he really choose any other one,THEN..

HE IS NOT FIT TO BE UR BOYFRIEND....

Answer 2

my bf and I are the same way. When you get burned in the past it effects your future relationships. Time is the only thing that helps. Not to mention, having your boyfriend remember to tell you how important you are to him and vice versus. A great book (i don't care how silly this sounds) is "men are from mars, women are from venus" . It explains the simple things you can do to keep your man happy and confident in your relatioship and simple things he can do to boost your confidence in the relationship. Definately worth the read. And remember, it's natural to flirt a little. It's how we build trust and show acceptence in other people. It's when people cross the line and let the flirting cross the line (like making plans or "accidently" meeting one another) that things get unstable. You have to let a little harmless flirting go in order to let him know he's trusted. But remind him what your personal boundaries are. And be nice when you say that something he did made you uncomfortable, and he;ll be more likely to not repeat it.  

Answer 3

he might.  and that's okay.  that's part of being young, finding new relationships, you will too.

Answer 4

well being jealous is natural. if he is falling in love with you as u are with him nothin is to worry about. i mean girls will tempt him but he just has to know he has someone 10x better than they are. and that doesn't mean he cant flirt or be social some people cant help it its there being. and  remember people are people and evrything changes for better or worse just trust him.  

Answer 5

he probably will.....

if you don't trust him and/or are worried about it and you aren't even there yet then he probably isn't the one. if he was, you wouldn't even be asking the question or having those thoughts.

trust your gut feelings.....it's almost NEVER wrong. no matter what he says isn't happening, if you feel something isn't right, it probably isn't

Answer 6

Honey, calm down.  You've known this guy for two months, you don't love him and he doesn't love you.  You like each other a lot, you're very attracted to each other, if you're sleeping together already, you maybe have the feeling that you're bonded.  But none of that is love.

Dating is for figuring out if you two are compatible and if you want to continue dating.  If you keep acting like you are, he will see that you are not compatible with his goals of finding a loving, caring wife and mother of his future children.  (Assuming he actually wants that, and isn't just using you for free s*x.)

You're still in the high school mentality.  Just take a breath and date him for a few months before you get crazy.  You should both be dating other people.  You can't cheat on someone if you haven't made a formal committment to them, so just take it easy.  You're going to push him away or push him into "cheating" because he'll say, "well, I wasn't cheating but you acted like I was.  I figured if I was going to do the time, I might as well do the crime."

Just treat him in a loving, caring way.  Maybe you're insecure because you know you're not treating him as well as you could, that some other girl could come along and treat him better and steal him away.  (I'm not talking about s*x here.)  Don't worry about what he is going to do or not do, you can't control his actions.  Use this time to get to know him and see if you actually like him, or if he's just really good looking and it makes you feel good about yourself that someone so handsome wants you for a girlfriend.  Just be the best girlfriend you can, if he strays, he's a jerk anyway.

Answer 7

RELAX HAVE PATIENCE, TRUST IS A BIG THING IN A RELATIONSHIP.