College scenario: what would you do ... fun scenario... I will tell you what I did later?

Question

I graduated from college 2 years ago but these are scenarios I have been through or knew friends who have been through them... so read them and tell me what you would have did and I will tell you what actually happened in the scenario

scenario 1

two friends go off to two different college... and both graduate one is well educated and speaks as if she/he is educated... the other talks as if he never attend college nor graduate and he doesnt have a job... should we blame colleges for the personality and the behavior of college graduates

Scenario 2... we have a girl whose in college age 19 (sophomore)... parents are overprotective... infact she couldnt date period while she was growing up and her parent never talked about s*x.... when she gets sick.... the parents want her to come home.... they would call her to see where she is every 20 minutes... now that shes 2 hours away.... they think thats far.... anyways shes been dating a guy for a couple of weeks and because of her and shes buck wild... shes not answering her cell phone because she's partying... anyways her and the guy has had s*x and she just found out she was pregnant... and doesnt want to tell her parents..... who's fault is this...is it the parents fault for being overprotective or her fault for not taking precautions... should she have the baby or have an abortion and maintain her shy... overprotective personality and tell her parents she was too busy with classwork to answer the phone?

Scenario 3

A boy just started college three weeks ago his mother is a teacher and his father is a pastor who loves his BOY.... when he's around campus he's cool walking around all coupled up with girls but in the evening he secretly at guys houses and chatting on g*y sites... only he knows about his g*y lifestyle... and he knows if his family finds out his life will crash on him... so should he tell his family... or continue his lifestyle being a lover of girls in the morning and a guy lover at night?

Scenario4

two girls have a dorm room together Lala and Monique.. they are friends...not close but hey who are in college?... they know how to adjust being in the room together... anywho...2 months after being in college Lala is dating a guy name chase that is 20 years older than her but he's in college(late bloomer)... Monique dont know about this guy but in her gut she doesnt like him for her friend Lala... but she doesnt tell her...when Monique come back to her dorm on break Chase is there... sometime alone in Lala's bed or in the room with Lala... usually Lala would immediatly leave the room and go to the library she would be mad due to the fact that she would want peace and could never come to her room and get it (in college guys dont suppose to spend the night so LaLa was breaking rules) one night Monique decided she would sleep longer due to the fact she didnt have to go to school early so she got some sleep a long nice rest.... she heard the door open but thought it was her room mate coming in after a party... after 30 minutes she felt someone naked on her...groping on her... it was chase... saying she knew she wanted him... and he liked her and wanted to be with her while he was trying to force her to have s*x with him... she screamed and faught back....the next day she saw him walking with monique he winked at Monique as if nothing happened...should she tell the R.A. or director what happend and that Monique broke curfew and rules by letting chase in after hours and giving him the key to their dorm? or tell LaLA what occured? or Leave the school and attend another school? or Say nothing?

Answer 1

1.  There is a broad range of colleges AND of college graduates.  We don't know if the guy is capable of speaking like an educated person and just chooses to act ignorant, or if he doesn't know better.  We don't know if he could get a job but chooses not to.  It is hard to blame the school unless we know more, and I suspect it has more to do with the student than with the school.

2.  I can relate to this one, but once a person moves out of the house, her actions are her own responsibility, even if she was overprotected in high school.  As in the first scenario, she has to take responsibility for her own actions.  Whether or not she should have an abortion is her business, and depends on a lot of things we know nothing about.  The same is true of how she talks to her parents.  I don't know enough about the relationship to be able to give advice.

3.  A lot of college students are either still confused about their own sexuality or are just not ready to come out of the closet yet, especially if they fear that this will destroy their relationships with their families.  In this case, as in the others, you can't tell someone what they SHOULD do, because only they know what the consequences might be and it is none of anyone else's business.

4.  I don't know what Monique's problem is, but if some guy got on top of me uninvited, I would have called the police immediately, let alone the RA or director.  I don't get that she didn't do anything about it until the next day.  I don't think she should use this as an opportunity to rat out her roommate for breaking curfew, but it certainly is appropriate for her to tell officials that this happened because he had a key to the room.  She could, perhaps, tell Lala what happened, but I doubt it would make much of a difference. I would feel very unsafe under these circumstances, and demand to be put in another room, rather than transferring to another school as if I had done something wrong..  

Answer 2

scenario 1 blame  themselves.

scenario 2 both are to blame she should get an abortion, having a baby would put a halt to school.

scenario 3 he needs to be a man and fess up. that dl sh*t is nasty

scenario4 she needs to tell Lala and the police. that man should be in jail.