Combined Engagement Party?

Question

My Fiance & I got engaged back in early April. We wanted an engagement party but my sister was getting married a week after we got engaged, so we thought maybe it was bad timing & we should wait a bit.

My extended family has had SO many events this year, a few weddings, baby showers, big birthdays & his family lives about 3 hours away.

We really dont wanna put it off for too long cause whats the point of celebrating your engagement so many months .. or years after getting engaged.

In October it's my mum's 50th birthday & my finance's 21st & we were going to have a combined party for that, So do you think it would be tacky or rude to have the engagement party included that way people wouldn't have to come out multiple times for different things?

Answer 1

I think your mom's 50th is a big deal, and she deserves her own celebration for that separately.

If you want to combine your fiance's birthday with an engagement party, that's fine.

Answer 2

I think wanting an engagment party, bridal shower, wedding and respection is a little much for people (your friends and family) I would just go to your mom's party enjoy her time moms don't get a day where its all about them very much..hold off on your engagment and his birthday...

Answer 3

no if you, your fieance, and your mom feels ok with it, then its your descision and no reason not to

only the 3 of you can descide on this mather

Answer 4

Different places have different customs but I have never been to or been invited to an engagement party...I've celebrated engagements with my friends by going out to dinner, excitedly talking about their engagement or wedding...but never an actual party - do you really need one?  If everyone is going to be at the other parties you'll get a chance to see them and for them to congratulate you and see the ring, etc... at the birthday parties.  The bridal shower is a time when family and friends will have a "party" for you and you'll get gifts then.  I just am not sure what the purpose of an engagement party is other than a way to ask for gifts, which to me is tacky since you'll be getting gifts at the shower and wedding.  But like I said, different places have different customs, so maybe in your parts that's not how things work....

Answer 5

You are fortuante to have so many things to celebrate and a family that supports you. Good for you! I think it is a great idea to have a combinded party. The more you have to celebrate the better. The planning and decorations/themes for the party might be a little difficult to tie together,but who cares, you have lots to celebrate and much to be thankful for. Congrats

Answer 6

yes why not.save time and money.discuss this withyour mum very tactfully and pray for the best she understand you intention.it could be a blessing in disguise for two event to take place together.

Answer 7

Not at all!  Its a perfect time to kill THREE birds with one stone! (LOL) (Forgive the cruelty to animals analogy!)  As long as your mom-in-law is ok with it!! (wHICH AT 50 i'm guessing she would be...by that age, birthdays feel like a dime a dozen..lol

Answer 8

I don't think this is the best idea. Your mum's 50th birthday is special as is your fiance's 21st. It wouldn't be right to upstage both of them with an engagement announcement as well. Plus, it's a little taxing on the guests.

If you were engaged in April and everybody knows about it, it's a little late for a party anyway. The purpose of an engagement party is announce it for the first time at the party. Up until the actual party, no one knows except the you and the parents. My suggestion is just chalk it up to your family having so many events this year and skip an engagement party. Instead, a few weeks before the wedding (perhaps the week the wedding invites are mailed), have a little cocktail party or backyard barbecue as kind of a wedding "warm-up" event.

Hope that's helpful!

Answer 9

I think it's fine if that's what you want to do. It's not tacky or rude. I just think I'd personally rather have the engagement party be about that. You could always keep it small, have dinner with close friends or something. It doesn't have to be a big affair. If you haven't announced, it seems like a great idea to do it at the combined party, but i'd do a separate thing, just for the two of you. Good luck.

Answer 10

I wouldn't have an engagement party 6 months after the engagement.

Skip it.