Come out completely or leave it personal?

Question

Some people say it's better to come out - only then you can be yourself.

Some say, have your personal life, but don't come out at work. Which means hide it from pretty much everyone, since people talk...

I guess, their views depend on their situations, but I want to know, which of those two ways of thinking is more popular. What's yours?

Answer 1

i say come out completely. why would it matter if your coworkers or whatever knew you were L*****n, g*y,or bisexual? they can't do anything about it cus your still a human being, why hide it from people? if they treat you differently then that's their problem because i bet you if you didn't say anything they wouldn't treat you differently, but why make friends for the wrong reason? i'd rather let people know that i'm a bisexual and have people love me for who i am, then have people love me because of what the think i am. what you said is right, it does depend on their views, my view is i'd rather let people know who i really am then lie about who i am.

Answer 2

personal

Answer 3

Well when yr a teen leave it personal cuz other teen are mean and justhurt ful and u come out when u are 100% sure

Answer 4

I think that there is no point in telling the people you wouldn't discuss your personal life with anyway. That being said, I don't like the idea of taking special precautions to hide it either.

Either way, job security is more important than small talk with coworkers.  

Answer 5

I'd leave it personal at work, but id tell my parents but there's still a risk of them telling other people

Answer 6

personal

i've only told my bff and i threatened them with bodily harm if they blabed it till i was ready

Answer 7

My view is coming out or not is a highly personal decision and that each person must decide, considering all the circumstances and possible consequences, whether to come out or not -- and it does not matter what is the more popular view amongst other people.

I also think that the world would be a better place if everyone were "out" -- without the need to "come out".  That, unfortunately, is not going to happen in the foreseeable future.

As for me, I have never lied about my sexual orientation but I don't see the need to tell everyone about it either.  I tell those who need to know, and those whom I feel comfortable telling.  (The two groups do not overlap totally.)  If someone asks, I may or may not answer, depending on why they are asking.  Frankly, a person's sexual orientation, like most personal matters, is rarely anybody else's business.  I don't usually tell people what religious beliefs I may have, my favorite color, my least favorite food, or other things about me UNLESS there's a reason to tell.

So, am I "out"?  I think I am, but I know some would disagree.  I am confident I am myself, though.