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It's my birthday.. But like many years, I always hate this day..Last year, my only first party I ever had was a lame one, when hours before my friends were torturing my mental by making a super lamest pranks--make my only laptop looked like been stolen(actually they hid it) and I was going crazy looking for it from room to room at my hostel, alone by myself from floor to floor. I would never forget how I felt that at same time while I was depressed by my boyfriend cheating on me, he even forgotten to wish me Happy Birthday because he was busy asking his bi-a-tch naked pics.

Back to my childhood time, I never had a real birthday party. My birthday is just like any other day, but I still felt good when my friends wishing me, at least. My parents, never buy me a cake or even remember me for it. I was always grateful had gifts from my bestfriends , even if it is just a card or small cheap handmade ones. I loved them. I only can remember I got beaten and cried hard by my dad on this day.

I come from middle class family, but my family didn't really care about me. I always had wants like toys and such, but everytime I asked for it, they never give. But there's one thing I thankful so much from my dad, when he bought me a monopoly game when I was 14.

Before today, I expected (I have tried not too expected it too much cause I know what I always want it to be would never happen), I EXPECTED to have a gift from my bf, I told him many times, I wanted a teddybear for my bday a month before.. but last night was the super disheartened one when he asked me to go look into a box, and I was like "please2, a surprise please..(maybe not)". I opened the box and found out there was a pant. His quarter of kilo bucks Levi's pant. And I was like, "nevermind..maybe there will be something more later, anything at least". I kept cool rational,trying to be happy...

Hours and hours passes but he never even wish me happy birthday, until I wrote at my Win Live Messenger message "fu-kin lame bday day" then he just realized it and tried to apologize. And that't it, he only said that, birthday is not that important, you got many more birthday. That's it.

Now, I don't know.. I feel so depressed telling that I just want to feel special on this day many times on my head. I want to feel it from my boyfriend. And I want flower, teddybear just like other girls have from their couples because I never get a real one.(The only one I ever got from him was a recycle roses. Roses that given by other couples because he asked from them to give it to me, but I understand, he got no money). I want a surprise. I try to calm myself comparing me with other poor people who are not that luck in their lives.

But the thing is... I HATE MY BOYFRIEND. He cheated on me on my birthday, and he never remembered what date is my bday eventhough we have been together 4 years now. He sucks at everything. But I keep forgiving him when he apologizes and tries to make up things, selling his best words and promises. Knowing that he is that jerk, I also have another spare boyfriend, but he also didn't even remember today is my birthday. I don't know if I am too emotional or immature..or expecting too much......or materialistic.............what should I do? and what you guys think about this? Thanks for reading.....it is relieving to write this and express it out, but it surely more realieving if you guys read it and give an advice...

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  1. It's called "It's My Birthday".  It's an age old feeling.  Bites everyone with this bug called "depression".  Makes no sense whatsoever, does it?  For some reason, we feel a magical fairy will fly out at any time and sprinkle us with star dust......we'll turn in to a beautiful Princess with all the riches of the world at our feet on our birthday.  Why?  It's what we've read in story books all our lives. The same is true about this sorry lot of boy friends.  We've read about all the frogs turning in to wonderful Princes.  Yet, what do we get the same "Ole Frog" day in and out?  

    Real life isn't as much fun, as the story books are they?  But the nice thing about life is it's what we make it.  We can be depressed today about a birthday that really sucks, but tomorrow can be a better day IF we choose for it to be.  That choice is totally ours.  I like that.  It empowers us within, as we grow in to adults.  Of course we will have bad days and these memories will always be with us.........but if you really think about it, you do have some great memories, too.  I bet you have some really sweet friends and family, too.

    This boy friend may not be right for you.  I have to agree with Top Contributor, if you cheat......why would you expect more from your boyfriend?  Here's a secret.  No matter what type relationship you're in. Be faithful and loyal.  You have nothing to lose.  You have everything to gain. It's the way to build a good name and good reputation.  His bad is not on you.  It's on him.  When you're free of him.  You're free to have another relationship.  All guys want a loyal faithful girlfriend.

    Happy Birthday and Blessings to you<><:)


  2. You should try dating girls, they're more in tune with our needs. But they're alot more work for us than guys are, so you might not like it.

  3. why are you still even dating your boyfriend dude?  he's a loser!  i read most of it, and I really dont know what you want us to do?  say that sucks? well that sucks.  Find some new friends and a new boyfriend.  wish ya the best.  if your in missouri hit me up ill be your buddy :-p

  4. on the last part, you said you have also a "spare boyfriend" which means he is not only the one cheating but so do you. he had been doing things that you didn't like for the past 4yrs being in relation with him but still you tolerate that's why he got spoiled and foremost, he doesn't value the relationship with you.

    with regards to the gift you want to receive, you said also that he has no money since he belong to a poor family. his right when he told you that you will still celebrate b-days every year while you still live in this earth. longing for gifts is kinda materialistic in general. but i know that most people do like to receive one from their partner. but if you think that your partner cannot afford to buy one, you don't need to get angry for that, instead you have to be understandable. the problem is that he didn't wish you a Happy Birthday on that day is a mistake for him, i guess, but as i said not all guys or girls will value those kind of days. even my BF before never greets me that even if i do with him every year but i don't give importance nor get angry. what i value most is the feeling he will have for me, the love, the trust and respect. but with your BF, per your message here, seems he is not the real type you're looking for. so if i were you, why not try to get involve much with your spare BF and see who is the best and pursue it for the rest?

  5. Thats cool - having a spare boyfriend! I think i might try that haha  

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