Commication,i have some close m8s whom i value alot?

Question

but wana be a beta m8,ie a better commicator and enjoy the friendship more,any ideas as i feel gud m8s are a gift and vital to a gud emotional life

Answer 1

I have already answered this question to a degree in my answer to your question about 2 mates demanding money off you.  I'm not really quite sure what you mean by a better communicator.  Does this mean getting your point over, having a greater understanding of what is being talked about or the way you speak?

You are absolutely correct when you say good mates are a gift and vital to a good emotional life.

We have friends for a variety of reasons, some to play sports with if that interests you, some maybe to enjoy music concerts with.  What I'm really saying that there is so much going on and as we are gregarious  by nature most of us like to share and enjoy our interests with others.

There are other friends with whom we can entrust with our innermost secrets and thoughts knowing they will be there should the need ever arise. Friendships of this nature very often take some time to consolidate and cement.  It very much depends on the circumstances under which the friendship is made.

All friendships are based on openness, trust, respect and consideration

amonst other things.



What we all need to do when making friends is to evaluate exactly what we can offer them and what they can offer us.  It's a two way thing requiring what I have mentioned above.

Real friends accept each other for who they, what they are and how they with their good points and bad points.  None of us are perfect and most people do not unjustifiably criticise their friends.

Really close friends may offer constructive criticism for self-improvement.

You say you want to be a better mate in terms of communication but as this covers such a wide spectrum I can offer no advice here unless I have more details.

I have answered loads of questions on friendship, self-confidence and self-esteem.  These are available for you to see if you go to my best answers.

Please feel free to email me if I can be of further assistance.