Commitment ceremony?Help!!!!?

Question

Ok me and my HTB decided that we want to have a commitment ceremony in a eloping type style..We dont wanna do the marriage on paper becuz of his SSI disability..And i know that if we do it by paper they will take his benifits from him and we are not in the stable money conditions for that to happen right now.So anywho I was wondering is it ok If we do a commitment ceremony In a eloping style without having to be Legally married in the state of Alaska?(plz any answers help)

Answer 1

Of course you can. If you do not apply for  a marriage license or get married by someone that is not a licensed miniter in the state if alaska, then you will not be legally married.

I was going to marry a couple friend that was in a similar situation. Of course, I'm not licensed or trained to conduct such ceremony and it would't be legal. but it meant sothing to them for sentimental reasons.

Go ahead and do it! Enjoy! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Answer 2

Hi.  Of course you can!  Since you don't need this commitment to be done in a legal way, then you have a few more options.  

If you want a judge or a minister to preside....then go ahead and ask them if they are willing to do this type of ceremony.  If you don't want to ask them, and since you really don't need a judge or minister because it's not a legal ceremony, then you can ask a friend or family member to preside over the ceremony.  

If you say you want it to be like an elopement, then I take it you will not be inviting any guests.....so even better!  You don't need to explain.  If you do decide that you want guests, just make sure that the invitations clearly state that they are invited to "witness the commitment and love of x*x to x*x" or something similar to that.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You can have a commitment ceremony anywhere you want, but, without it being "on paper," you won't be legally married. This means you won't have the same benefits a legally married couple would have (i.e. tax benefits, "family" rights at the hospital should either of you be seriously injured, etc). However, keep in mind that after a certain number of years (depending on the state), you will have a common-law marriage. Make sure that each of you have Power of Attorney for each other. Otherwise, without being married, you will not have any say in what happens to the other's assets should anything happen to one of you.