Compassion burnout?

Question

So, I've noticed a lot how I've turned very bitter/judgemental/pessimistic/untrustin... of people... and have been expecting the worst of people. Which is the complete opposite of how I used to be a few years ago when I genuinely cared about EVERYONE and gave everyone the benefit of the doubt/tried to look for the best in everyone. Mostly, I could empathize with them. Sometimes too much.

Now I don't feel that compasssion and empathy I used to.

I know it's because I allowed myself to be too vulnerable, thusly getting myself hurt and turning bitter.

I guess what I'm really asking is for a good outlook on people that makes sense, and is eye-opening so I can actually allow myself to genuinely care and connect with people?

I really appreciate all of the nice comments!

Answer 1

Compassion is draining because you are caring for a person when ultimately they must care for themselves. Love is still good, but think about it, you don't want others doing all the work for you, only possibly some encouragement and a little respect. That is what true compassion is.

Answer 2

First understand that this pessimistic outlook is a phase shared by many young people who have yet to experience the world.  This my persist in adults who are too prideful to give up their own view for a broader understanding.  Believe me I've been there.

People only know what they know and do only what they know how to do, or else they would not be who they are.  This is applies to all things including oneself.  To be unconditional to all, even the self, is more practical than to assume people ought to know better, or else they would.  A cat only knows cat nature and a dog experiences dog life.  Humans are no different.

Here is a link to a teacher of these teachings who has helped many people realize what they have not considered before.

http://www.beyondtheordinary.net/drhawki...