Completely stressed! help!?

Question

My life is extremely stressful lately. I am REALLY self conscious about how i look. I'm not overweight or anything i just don't like how i look.

Not only that but there are so many things happening in my life lately. I got so stressed i feel like i dont care about anything any more! What can i do to lessen the stress or what could help me get through it slowly. (ex. comfort food etc)

Answer 1

A selection of treatments follows, because circumstances, and individual preferences vary. See stress treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 42: view page i first. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods. For others, or yourself: A massage (at least neck and shoulders) with jasmine, lavender, juniper, and/or bergamot, or German chamomile essential oils added to the massage oil, and to a warm bath, preferably beforehand, to help make any tension knots and muscles more pliant (they may only want, say, a juniper and/or bergamot and/or sandalwood mix: check first). I am aware of advice that strong heat, applied to essential oils can damage them, and so I would not use a diffuser.

Also consider anise, basil, bay, eucalyptus,  peppermint, rose, and thyme. Place some pieces of rock salt in a small vial, then add a few drops of the oil of your choice (the rock salt absorbs the oil and is  less risky to carry around than a bottle of oil). Open the vial and breathe in the scent whenever you need a quick stress release.  See if they will do long, stretching yoga exercises, or t'ai chi with you (see section 2, at ezy build, below).      

Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Repeat: "I feel calm" and/or "I can handle this." A variant of EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing  therapy is shown on page i, in section 42, at ezy build.  I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over.

Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself".  

You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand.

  For some people, it helps to visualise a quiet, relaxing scene, (Imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably in a hammock strung between coconut palms. You luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever ... ).      

  Some people may find it helps when they listen to: http://www.amazon.com/Sounds-Of-The-Ocea...  Other suggestions: http://www.secretsofmeditation.com/demo....  

     and the audio, as well as the printed version, at:   http://www.lessons4living.com/relaxation...   and http://www.amazon.com/Ambient-Rain-Sound...  or the mountain river sounds.  Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it.

Light to moderate daily exercise helps fight stress.  http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris  Try Ginseng or Lady's Slipper.

Answer 2

Well, if you are self concious about how you look, then I would think that you need to change something about how you look. If how you look represents you and you are fine with it, then keep your look.

However, since you are self concious about your look then I recommend you change it. Try changing a hair style and giong tanning

Answer 3

No one is perfect in this world, it's natural to be self conscious and since you are not overweight, don't worry much about it.

Although, I don't know whether you have family, relationship, friendship or school issues that are causing the stress, take it easy. Solve one thing at a time and encourage yourself. There's so much fun things to care about. I suggest volunteering, and getting more involved your community, hang out with friends and don't get isolated. Food is not the best way to seek comfort, it may develop into obesity.

Answer 4

Maybe your stress is causing you to be mildly depressed. Generally, exercise is a good thing for stress and depression.

Have you tried volunteering? Helping others is another great way to feel better about yourself and help you get out of your own head. Meditation, breathing and mindfulness training have helped me.