Completly messed it up with a girl i really like by sleeping with her...?

Question

Well iv been speaking 2 this girl alot on msn, texts and wev met up a few times. I really do like her but she has recently split with her ex she was with for a few years so she tells me she is confused at the moment and not sure what she wants.

Anyway the other night she rang me to pick her up after a nightclub she was in closed. So i went and i found her walking down the road with her arm around 2 boys for support because she was that drunk. I got her in the car and she told me she wanted me to take her to see her friend, then she wanted to take her home, then when we got there she decided she wanted to come back to mine so i could give her a lift to work in the morning. We were driving for about an hour nd she was kinda sobering up. when we got back to mine she could walk ok.

We went up 2 my room and started kissing. She kept telling me she wanted me, i was turned on so i did sleep with her and didnt think twice.. 2 days after were talking again and i ask her how she felt about that night. She told me she feels like she was taken advantage of a bit and regrets it kinda... I feel so stupid for rushing into it like that, i did want to be her boyfriend now i dont know if iv ruined it or not. Im thinkin about buying her some flowers to say sorry then giving her some space for abit.

She has slept over my house before sober and iv been over hers but we didnt sleep together then. I regret it now because she feels that way. Have a ruined what could have been a good relationship?

Thanks for your time :s

Answer 1

She has every right to prove herself an idiot. Do you want to do the same? s*x is a trivial thing; accept it casually. Why are you making a big issue out of it? Maybe she has been very good at bed but is there any reason to think that she is the best? Try other women. Remember that a rolling stone gathers no moss. Always be free and let others be free.

Answer 2

Sleeping with a girl when she is drunk is a very bad idea as you can now see.  No matter if you tell her that she is the one that asked for it she will deny it.  I don't know if your chances with her are ruined or not I wouldn't think so but who knows.   I don't approve of drinking to the extent your gf drank that night.  I don't know if that happens often or not but I am not getting good vibes from that girl.  The choice is always yours.  If I were in your shoes I would let her go, I don't think she will stay with you for very long.

Answer 3

I think your flower and apology plan is a good course of action. It shows you're not just trying to get into her pants (because you already did and STILL want to befriend her)